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live it up

It’s *Think it Thursday* and it’s time to live it up –

As some of you know, I’m a single mom.  Take the pressure to be a good mom and amplify it – because now you feel like you’re making up for extra problems your kids have to deal with.

The secret I’ve discovered for being a better mom for them, is living it up.  Yep, having fun it so important. I don’t believe the lie that there’s no time for it, just because I have a lot of responsibilities.

Fun and laughter – is my lifeline.

If you feel exhausted and spread thin too often, maybe you need to have more fun too.

I usually blast music in the car and dance (especially when the person in front of me notices in their rear-view mirror and starts laughing).

Sometimes I sneak away with my friends and tell my kiddos they just need to fend for themselves for dinner.  I know it will be a mess when I get home and I’m not really sure what they’ll actually eat – but I just let it go.

And whenever possible – I laugh.  I especially laugh at my own jokes, because why not?

Fun and laughter will create energy for you.  They will remind you that you’re a person separate from “mom.”

Have fun.

Laugh.

Sing and dance – and make people smile.

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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crying my eyes out

*Think it Thursday* and crying my eyes out –

Last week I was working with a client to release perfectionism.

We talked about letting go of the, “do it all,” “do it perfect,” mentality that was overwhelming her.

We talked about the mean girl in her head who was telling her she shouldn’t need help and she should be doing more and managing it all better.

I asked her, “what will happen if you keep trying to have it “all together”?”

She thought about it and came to realize, she would explode. She would not be holding anything together at all, because she would finally collapse under the weight of it all.

That was her realization. And then there was mine…

Fast forward just a bit.

5 days ago I was having a complete emotional breakdown.

I had been really sick and was at that point – I needed help.

Help with kids, help with a grocery store run, help with food. I hated asking for help. I didn’t want to put anyone out. I didn’t want to disappoint anyone by cancelling my appointments.

To be honest, I was crying my eyes out.

I could see myself, and I could see my client – one in the same– both struggling to be okay with simply being human.

You see, you and me (and her) – we are not that different.

We’re all just human, sometimes expecting something superhuman from ourselves.

We believe a lie that we are supposed to be better than our best. We expect of ourselves more than we would ever expect of anyone else. We talk down to ourselves, rather than having our own back.

What if today you are human, and that’s okay?

What if you have flaws?

What if sometimes you need help?

What if you’re perfectly imperfect, exactly as you’re supposed to be?

And what if I am too?

xo

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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Moms on a Mission

Do you ever hide in the pantry (with chocolate chips) just to get a minute to yourself in need of some serious self-care?

This week for *Think it Thursday*, I’ve got something awesome for you!

If you find yourself overwhelmed, but wishing for more peaceful relationships with your kids – stay tuned.

I am SO excited to announce a collaboration with my friend Maurine Free Huber that will leave you feeling peacefulnurtured and empowered!

Because you are a valued member of my community, I have a complimentary spot in this online summit saved for you HERE.

I teamed up with Maurine because I know that when you take time to care for yourself you are able to unlock peacefulness and be truly present for your kids.

In this summit you’ll learn tips and tricks and get re-centered on what’s most important.

It starts next week, so sign up (free) now for The Peaceful Motherhood Summit: How to Nurture Yourself and be Fully Present for Your Children 

My friend, also a motherhood coach, Maurine Free Huber, is talking to 21 experts in the field of parenting, nutrition, mindfulness, and belief who are living the way they have dreamed and raising loving peaceful families.

The experts give their honest answers about their personal parenting experiences, and practical applications so that you can start living a life of passion, where you nurture yourself and your children.

HERE’S WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO EXPERIENCE:

  • Interviews: Short mama friendly interviews. Each interview is just 20 minutes or less making it easy for you to tune in.
  • Real Talk with Real mamas: Experts in self-care, nutrition, mindfulness, and parenting
  • Strategies: Tips and tricks to make yourself a priority without the dreaded “mom guilt”
  • Community: I believe we need to know we are not alone on this journey of motherhood!

Join me HERE.

I can’t wait to “see” you there!

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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Yelling at the kids

*Think it Thursday* and yelling at the kids –

My client Caroline keeps losing it every time her son throws a tantrum.  She holds it together for a while, and then – she can’t. He is unreasonable.  He doesn’t listen.  He should not be acting that way.

We talked last week about why it’s so challenging for her.  She thought it was just his behavior that bothered her, but we came to realize it’s really because she’s afraid she’s failing as a mom.

She makes his behavior mean that she’s not doing a good job.  And that feels terrible.  When that fear of inadequacy builds up inside of her – she loses it.

 And suddenly she is the one acting unreasonable. 

No one wants to act unreasonable.  You don’t, and neither do your kids.  But sometimes… it just happens.

What if your kids’ unreasonable behavior is just a weak moment or a challenging task?

What if it will pass and it’s not worth getting so upset about?

What if you can both learn from it, rather than believe it’s a sign that everything is going terribly wrong?

Try that on for size and see what happens.  You may find it much easier to stay calm and solution-minded. And perhaps you can be reasonable, even when they aren’t.

You’re doing amazing things, mama.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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6 Strangers: Nine Weeks Later

It’s *Think it Thursday* and last week I had coaching calls with 6 strangers.

I had met these women before.

And I’d been working with them for 9 weeks.

But they were completely different than the women I had spoken with 3 months earlier.

In October they were unclear on where to start with priorities. They didn’t know how to begin to eliminate overwhelm. They knew they needed better self-care, but had no idea where to start.

We spent 9 week together and everything changed.

The calls I had with them last week – were incredible.

Every one of them had experienced improvement in their marriage.

They each understood exactly where their focus should be in the new year.

They felt more at peace with the direction of their life.

And the best part – they felt more confident in themselves and their ability to make their life what they really want it to be.

What’s better than that?

Not much.

Join the wait list for my next Mom Mastermind Online Group Class HERE.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire