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live it up

It’s *Think it Thursday* and it’s time to live it up –

As some of you know, I’m a single mom.  Take the pressure to be a good mom and amplify it – because now you feel like you’re making up for extra problems your kids have to deal with.

The secret I’ve discovered for being a better mom for them, is living it up.  Yep, having fun it so important. I don’t believe the lie that there’s no time for it, just because I have a lot of responsibilities.

Fun and laughter – is my lifeline.

If you feel exhausted and spread thin too often, maybe you need to have more fun too.

I usually blast music in the car and dance (especially when the person in front of me notices in their rear-view mirror and starts laughing).

Sometimes I sneak away with my friends and tell my kiddos they just need to fend for themselves for dinner.  I know it will be a mess when I get home and I’m not really sure what they’ll actually eat – but I just let it go.

And whenever possible – I laugh.  I especially laugh at my own jokes, because why not?

Fun and laughter will create energy for you.  They will remind you that you’re a person separate from “mom.”

Have fun.

Laugh.

Sing and dance – and make people smile.

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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crying my eyes out

*Think it Thursday* and crying my eyes out –

Last week I was working with a client to release perfectionism.

We talked about letting go of the, “do it all,” “do it perfect,” mentality that was overwhelming her.

We talked about the mean girl in her head who was telling her she shouldn’t need help and she should be doing more and managing it all better.

I asked her, “what will happen if you keep trying to have it “all together”?”

She thought about it and came to realize, she would explode. She would not be holding anything together at all, because she would finally collapse under the weight of it all.

That was her realization. And then there was mine…

Fast forward just a bit.

5 days ago I was having a complete emotional breakdown.

I had been really sick and was at that point – I needed help.

Help with kids, help with a grocery store run, help with food. I hated asking for help. I didn’t want to put anyone out. I didn’t want to disappoint anyone by cancelling my appointments.

To be honest, I was crying my eyes out.

I could see myself, and I could see my client – one in the same– both struggling to be okay with simply being human.

You see, you and me (and her) – we are not that different.

We’re all just human, sometimes expecting something superhuman from ourselves.

We believe a lie that we are supposed to be better than our best. We expect of ourselves more than we would ever expect of anyone else. We talk down to ourselves, rather than having our own back.

What if today you are human, and that’s okay?

What if you have flaws?

What if sometimes you need help?

What if you’re perfectly imperfect, exactly as you’re supposed to be?

And what if I am too?

xo

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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Moms on a Mission

Do you ever hide in the pantry (with chocolate chips) just to get a minute to yourself in need of some serious self-care?

This week for *Think it Thursday*, I’ve got something awesome for you!

If you find yourself overwhelmed, but wishing for more peaceful relationships with your kids – stay tuned.

I am SO excited to announce a collaboration with my friend Maurine Free Huber that will leave you feeling peacefulnurtured and empowered!

Because you are a valued member of my community, I have a complimentary spot in this online summit saved for you HERE.

I teamed up with Maurine because I know that when you take time to care for yourself you are able to unlock peacefulness and be truly present for your kids.

In this summit you’ll learn tips and tricks and get re-centered on what’s most important.

It starts next week, so sign up (free) now for The Peaceful Motherhood Summit: How to Nurture Yourself and be Fully Present for Your Children 

My friend, also a motherhood coach, Maurine Free Huber, is talking to 21 experts in the field of parenting, nutrition, mindfulness, and belief who are living the way they have dreamed and raising loving peaceful families.

The experts give their honest answers about their personal parenting experiences, and practical applications so that you can start living a life of passion, where you nurture yourself and your children.

HERE’S WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO EXPERIENCE:

  • Interviews: Short mama friendly interviews. Each interview is just 20 minutes or less making it easy for you to tune in.
  • Real Talk with Real mamas: Experts in self-care, nutrition, mindfulness, and parenting
  • Strategies: Tips and tricks to make yourself a priority without the dreaded “mom guilt”
  • Community: I believe we need to know we are not alone on this journey of motherhood!

Join me HERE.

I can’t wait to “see” you there!

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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I don’t believe in second chances

It’s *Think it Thursday* and I don’t believe in second chances…

At least I don’t believe it ends there.

You may have set a goal for 2018. And you may already feel that you’re failing.

Or the fear that you will fail might be lingering in the back of your mind.

That doubt and fear, is the worst. And when we fear we won’t make it, we usually don’t.

It’s not so much the fear of failing this time that’s the issue. It’s the fear that we’ll never succeed at all.

Imagine for a minute…

Think about a lofty goal that you have.

What if you knew, without a doubt, that you’d achieve it.

What if a crystal ball revealed it, and you knew it would happen.

How much different would your experience of failure be then?

If you overate today, you wouldn’t stay stuck in defeat. You would know it was just a set back and you’d keep going.

If you yelled at your kids (again), you could assure yourself that you would get better and to keep trying.

If you went over budget because you forgot to account for that one thing- it wouldn’t be the end of the world. You would know you were learning. And for sure, you would get there.

Where are you falling short of your expectations and what would be different if you knew you would get there? How can you instill that hope and willingness to persevere?

The magic of becoming better is that you always get more than just a second chance. You have a lifetime to get there.

Commit.

Don’t quit.

And you’ll get there.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!
-Molly Claire

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Divorce and Single Moms: A year later

Saying goodbye to what you’ve known for such a long time, is hard.

Moving forward into the unknown, can be terrifying.

Believing something better is just around the corner, requires a tremendous amount of faith.

 

A year ago today, I finalized my divorce after a year and a half of separation.

My 15-year marriage, ended.

I’ve never blogged about it and I don’t talk about it in my business.

But today, I think it’s time.

 

A couple of weeks ago I had a 20-year high school reunion and there were updates online from classmates about what’s transpired over the years.  There were so many single mamas navigating the unknown, trying to be the mom they really want to be, despite their circumstances.  Stepping into being breadwinner and mom extraordinaire.  Always trying to be a rock, while dealing with their own grief, sadness, and fear.

And I can relate.

I’ve seen other friends on social media who I haven’t spoken to in years, suddenly reclaiming their maiden name.  Or others who post picture after picture and it’s just her and the kids. That’s it.

And it’s all too familiar.

As it was all settling in, I realized that it was time I speak up.  That perhaps I need to reach out more, and help more women.  Because who they are and what they are doing – is too important.  Their life, their kids, and their future, is way too important, to go unnoticed.

Because if you haven’t gone through it, you don’t really know what it’s like.

My own process of healing and moving forward over the last 3 years has been nothing short of transformative.  And the fact that I’ve been able to help other women navigate this same process as their coach, has been a divine gift.

There was a time when I couldn’t imagine not feeling bitterness and resentment.  I used to feel stuck and frustrated and felt that I didn’t have control over my own life.  I worried incessantly about my kids and how they would handle all that was happening.  I also remember feeling intense fear in the pit of my stomach for weeks on end – wondering if I could really support myself financially.

Fear of judgement from family, friends, community, and church.

Fear of losing the incredible people who had been family throughout my marriage.

Fear about whether I could really make it.

Fear for my kids.

Fear poured into every crack of my life, and over every inch of my body.

Sadness, anger, grief, and regret would come in waves. With each new phase and change, it was reprogramming my brain again and processing new emotions.

And with all of it, I knew there was no getting around it.  There was only going through it.

And now, looking back… I can see how far I’ve come.

I’m so happy that today, I’m celebrating.  I made it here, and I know I can make it through whatever lies ahead.  I’m so grateful that all along the way, I didn’t ignore any of it.  I did my self-coaching, and used my own coach.  I grieved, I processed, and did the work.  I chose faith, and found immeasurable comfort in it.

While my process of becoming continues, I feel blessed that anger and resentment have no place in my life.  I love that I can feel unconditional love for my ex-husband and his new wife, and genuinely hope the best for them.  I’m grateful beyond belief that my kids are thriving and feel loved, by both of their parents.  I enjoy every moment of the confidence I feel as I build a business to support my desire to be present to raise my kids.  I’m grateful to believe in my own worth and feel stronger than I ever have.

If you’re reading this and you’re in this now, I promise you there is hope.  You are so much stronger than you realize.  You are courageous.  You are worthy of the best gifts in life.  You can do whatever challenges lie ahead.  Trust the process of life.  Trust that great things lie ahead.  Have faith that it’s possible, and it will be.

You’ve got this, mama!

XO

Molly Claire