My Worst Nightmare and Fear of Judgment

fear of judgment

Last week my worst nightmare happened.

I was with a large group of women whom I know and love, talking about a topic that was particularly sensitive for me.

The conversation was full of strong opinions and judgments, that felt like direct judgment toward me.  This may not sound like a “worst nightmare,” but it was for me.

I had worked through my own feelings of inadequacy and fear of judgment, and there I sat wondering how this could be happening and why I was feeling so much emotional pain.

We all have a topic like that.  Something we’ve wrestled with, and fear judgment about.

Perhaps you have a defiant or hyperactive child that you “should be able to control.” 

Maybe you are divorced and people love to talk about how, “some people just aren’t willing to put in the work.”

Maybe you’ve chosen to be a stay-at-home mom… or a working mom.  Let’s face it – it’s impossible to win everyone over with either one of these choices.

The biggest problem with fearing this type of judgment is what it does to us.  Too often it keeps us from showing up in the world and really connecting with others.  It tempts us to judge others and allow anger or bitterness in.  Sometimes it even keeps us from having our own back when the judgments start to fly.  That’s when we allow other people’s comments to get inside our head and become our self-talk.

The happy ending to my worst nightmare is that it happened, and I’m completely okay.   I cried (and cried), and I’m alive, well and even stronger.   I felt terrible hurt, and I still love all of those women like crazy.  I sat among the very judgment I feared, and came out feeling 100% amazing about my life, my choices and who I am.

What is your fear keeping you from doing?
Fulfilling a dream?  Taking a risk? Opening up to true connections?

Today, think about what you might be able to do if you were willing to face that big fear.

I’m so glad I was able to experience my worst nightmare.  If I can do that, I can do anything.

Have a great day… one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

P.S.  Do you want a “fear of judgment” mini session?  Click here to get on my schedule.  We can take a look at what’s possible beyond that pesky fear.  talk soon 🙂