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I resent that.

It’s time for *Think it Thursday* and it’s all about resentment.

Such an ugly word, right?

I’ve had 4 conversations about resentment with clients this week.  And then, just yesterday – I experienced my own feeling of resentment coming up.

And so, it’s time we talk about it.

Jackie was feeling resentment toward her extended family.  She was offering them her time to complete a project and she felt unappreciated and disrespected.  She couldn’t understand how to feel anything but resentment.  It seemed to be her only option.

But it wasn’t.  We always have an option in the feelings we choose to create.

So why would we ever choose resentment? Why do we?

And why do we hang on to it?

And what in the world do we do about it?

Jackie had a hard time releasing the resentment for one simple reason – if she didn’t feel resentful then it seemed that she was disrespecting herself.  Her mind was telling her that if she felt resentment it would somehow be fighting for what she wanted from her family.  As if it was helping her get the result she wanted.

But it wasn’t.

The only thing resentment was doing was ruining her experience.  She was still helping her family, but rather than feeling like a giving and loving person, she was feeling tight and unhappy.

Resentment is never useful.  It never enhances your experience and it never gets you closer to what you really want.

And resentment…. is optional.

Just like all emotions it’s a feeling you create.

Jackie decided she wanted to create something better.  She decided to feel good about the kind of person she is and appreciate herself for it.  She felt proud that she’s a person who does what she says.  She felt generous as she rearranged her schedule because she wanted to.

It didn’t matter what her family said or did.  She was creating the feelings she wanted for her.  And feeling amazing.

If resentment is fooling you into thinking it’s useful, now you know.

You can create the experience you want, regardless of the circumstance.

What is resentment telling your brain it’s doing?  How does it seem to be helping you?  If you release the resentment, what do you fear you’re giving up?  Think about it.  Understanding what’s happening in your brain is the first step in creating something better.

Need a little help?  Click Here to schedule a release the resentment mini-session and we’ll get you started.

Remember,

You create your feelings.

Create good ones.

Feel amazing. 

Have a great week, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

Life Redesign Coach