Decide now

A lot of my clients get so worried about the holidays.

“It’s so busy.”
“There’s so much to do.”
“I get so overwhelmed.”

They worry that life will feel so out of control over those weeks.

But I say, decide now.

Decide now how you’ll experience December.

Think about how you really want to spend your time and do it.

Drop everyone else’s expectations and decide what’s most important to you.

Focus on relationships. Focus on your favorite moments.

Think about creating memories.

Take full responsibility for your experience and make it exactly what you want it to be.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

– Molly Claire

Thanks to you

Thank you so much for all you do every day.

Thanks for making sure everyone is up for school.

Fed. Dressed. Loved. Disciplined.

Thanks for doing it, even when you don’t feel like it.

Thanks for doing it, even when you’ve lost your temper and you feel like quitting.

Thanks for picking yourself back up, when you’re worried you’re failing.

Your kids might thank you one day, but don’t hold your breath.

Thank yourself. Feel grateful for who you are and all you do.

And accept this big thanks from me.

You’re doing great things every day – keep at it.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

– Molly Claire

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who’s fault?

The best thing I can ever tell you is that you’re going to feel a lot of negative emotions in your life.

Knowing this will save you from so much suffering.

It will reduce anxiety and fear.

It will save you from feeling the need to blame.

You see when we feel something negative, we think it shouldn’t be happening.

And so, we blame.

This is what it looks like for my clients:

My kids are fighting, and I feel upset…It’s their dad’s fault for parenting them wrong and I’m so angry.

My adopted teenagers don’t respect me and I feel so hurt…It’s so unfair that I didn’t get to have biological kids because then it would be different. I feel resentful.

My son is always getting in trouble at school and I’m so worried. I blame myself and I sit in self-loathing.

So much blame and anger and none of it is necessary.

Negative emotions will happen and maybe it’s okay to just notice that they are happening. Maybe no one is to blame. Maybe you can just focus on moving forward and finding solutions instead.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

– Molly Claire

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unexpected family

Last weekend my daughter was baptized, and it was honestly like a dream come true.

For her, and for me.

The pictures didn’t look the way I expected they would 8 years ago.

The dream I had then, was not the dream that came true this weekend.

Except in all the ways it was exactly the same dream.

I didn’t know then that I would be a single mom.

I didn’t expect that she would have a bonus mom and a half-sibling on the way.

I didn’t realize that my in-laws, who I adore, would be “ex” in-laws.

And I certainly never would have believed that I would feel so grateful about all of it.

The dream looked so different, but the love, connection, and happiness that I really wanted – was all there.

I feel so blessed that even though things don’t always go as planned, God grants us greater blessings than we can ever imagine.

I’m so grateful that my kids get to have even more people in their life that love them.

What a gift.

Even when your hopes and dreams seem to be out of reach, the experience you want can always happen. Create the relationships you want.

Keep focused on what’s most important. Allow God to work miracles.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

– Molly

a war zone

Last week I was in Spokane teaching with my friend and colleague, the amazing Jody Moore.

It was a magical week and meanwhile… back at home…

sometimes things seemed to be falling apart.  

On Friday morning (when my kids had the day off of school) my phone was blowing up with texts.

“He did this.”
“She said that.”
“They are driving me crazy.”

I turned to my friend Natalie and said, “My house is a war zone.”

I felt the guilt creeping up.  And the worry.

I started believing that I should be home to fix it.

Fast forward to 5:30 pm and I had all 3 of my kids on video. They were laughing and just hanging out.

The vacuum was out in the background with the cord strewn across the room. Proof that they had attempted to clean as instructed.

Just 8 hour earlier, I was certain that everything was falling apart and that I needed to fix it.

And I had been dead wrong.

They figured it out. They rose to the occasion. There was anger and fighting. And resolution and laughter. My son made pancakes for dinner.

Magic was happening at my house while I was gone. It was the best thing that I wasn’t there. I allowed them the perfect space they needed to figure it out.

Magic.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

-Molly