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unexpected family

Last weekend my daughter was baptized, and it was honestly like a dream come true.

For her, and for me.

The pictures didn’t look the way I expected they would 8 years ago.

The dream I had then, was not the dream that came true this weekend.

Except in all the ways it was exactly the same dream.

I didn’t know then that I would be a single mom.

I didn’t expect that she would have a bonus mom and a half-sibling on the way.

I didn’t realize that my in-laws, who I adore, would be “ex” in-laws.

And I certainly never would have believed that I would feel so grateful about all of it.

The dream looked so different, but the love, connection, and happiness that I really wanted – was all there.

I feel so blessed that even though things don’t always go as planned, God grants us greater blessings than we can ever imagine.

I’m so grateful that my kids get to have even more people in their life that love them.

What a gift.

Even when your hopes and dreams seem to be out of reach, the experience you want can always happen. Create the relationships you want.

Keep focused on what’s most important. Allow God to work miracles.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

– Molly

a war zone

Last week I was in Spokane teaching with my friend and colleague, the amazing Jody Moore.

It was a magical week and meanwhile… back at home…

sometimes things seemed to be falling apart.  

On Friday morning (when my kids had the day off of school) my phone was blowing up with texts.

“He did this.”
“She said that.”
“They are driving me crazy.”

I turned to my friend Natalie and said, “My house is a war zone.”

I felt the guilt creeping up.  And the worry.

I started believing that I should be home to fix it.

Fast forward to 5:30 pm and I had all 3 of my kids on video. They were laughing and just hanging out.

The vacuum was out in the background with the cord strewn across the room. Proof that they had attempted to clean as instructed.

Just 8 hour earlier, I was certain that everything was falling apart and that I needed to fix it.

And I had been dead wrong.

They figured it out. They rose to the occasion. There was anger and fighting. And resolution and laughter. My son made pancakes for dinner.

Magic was happening at my house while I was gone. It was the best thing that I wasn’t there. I allowed them the perfect space they needed to figure it out.

Magic.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

-Molly

the best day of my life

Today is the best day.  I drove 2 of my kids to school, which I normally don’t do since they ride the bus.

I have family coming in today for my son’s concert.

I can’t wait to have my favorite pork tacos with them.

I’m dying to see my son perform today.

I’m excited to have everyone cram into my house tonight for a sleepover.

The sun is out and it’s beautiful.

I told my daughter today in the car on our drive, “today is the best day ever.”

She was quick to tell me that I said that on Saturday.

The great thing is that I can decide that today is the best new day if I want to.

I can decide that it’s even better than the last great day.  When I’m appreciating all the little things and making them mean that it’s the best day – it’s so much fun.

Why is today the best day for you?  What if you believed it was?
What would you see?  How would you feel?

Enjoy your day – one thought at a time!

Xoxo

– Molly Claire

triggered

This morning I was triggered.

My teenager knows my guilt spot and he went for it.

He took a dig.
I was mad. Immediately mad.

The reason I was mad, is because of what I was thinking.

I was thinking…

He’s criticizing me.
He wants me to feel guilty.
He is judging me.
I’m failing as a mom.

No matter what I do, it’s not enough.
I’m doing my best, and it’s still not enough.
No one appreciates me.
It’s not fair.

No wonder I was feeling so terrible, right? That collection of thoughts flooded my mind and the result… triggered.

The reality is that he was discharging his own negative feelings.
Maybe he was criticizing or judging me.
Maybe he doesn’t appreciate me.
Maybe he does want me to feel guilty.

I don’t really know.

What I do know is that my emotions and the way I react is my responsibility.

And it’s my job to appreciate what I do and be my own supporter. I’m not going to count on my kids to tell me I’m amazing or “make me” feel good. That’s not their job and it’s not okay to ask that of them.

I won’t delegate my happiness to my kids – it’s just not a good idea. It’s not my kids job to make me feel good. It’s mine.

Who’s in charge of your happiness today? Your toddler? Your teenager?

I hope it’s you.
Give yourself a little sunshine and happiness. You deserve it.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time.

– Molly Claire

let go of the past

Yesterday my single mom group talked about letting go of the past.

Sometimes it means letting go of someone you loved.

Sometimes it’s letting go of resentment or anger.

Or maybe even letting go of being right.

When we hang on to something from the past, we are always holding ourselves back.

When we cling to anger or hurt – it’s usually out of fear… and it’s never useful.

Can you imagine taking the energy you’re spending on anger, hurt or fear and using it to move forward and create something new?

Where are you hanging on to something and how is it holding you back? Would you be willing to release it… let it go… and invite something better into your life?

That negative energy is taking up space. It doesn’t need to.

Let it go. Make space for something new.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

xo

-Molly Claire