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Incomplete

*Think it Thursday* and incomplete –

One of the biggest challenges of motherhood is being okay with incomplete.

It’s hard to measure success in the daily tasks of raising kids.

What’s clean one minute, is a disaster the next.

There are new problems every day.

You don’t feel like you’re checking many boxes.

I get it. And I help my clients with this all the time.

If you feel like you’re not getting anywhere, you’re probably frustrated and unfulfilled.

You wonder if what you’re doing is worthwhile.

And overtime, you may even wonder if you’re worthwhile.

It’s a trap I see women fall into all the time.

If you can relate, stop for a minute and think.

What if your worth and contribution is great, even without checking any boxes?
What if you are complete, even if the tasks around you aren’t?
What would be different if you felt confident that who you are matters?

And that you make a difference?

Think about it.

Click here if you’d like a little help.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

Xo
-Molly Claire

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the water is amazing

Woo hoo! It’s *Think it Thursday* and the water is amazing

I’m on vacation this week in Florida with my kids for Spring Break.
Wait, back up. I’m on a trip and my kids are on vacation 😉
(We all know how that goes, right?)

The water here is crazy bright blue! It’s gorgeous. The pictures are unbelievable.
I posted some pics on social media and sent some to friends too.
Everyone said, “Wow, enjoy that weather!”
“It looks perfect!”

In reality, when I took those pics it was in the 50s and windy.
We were freezing. I was wearing a sweatshirt and pants and the kid’s teeth were chattering.
But you’d never know it from the pictures.

It’s like when you see someone who seems to have it all together and you say, “How does she do it?”
Or you see a couple who looks happy and in love and you think, “Why isn’t my marriage like that?”
And you see a family laughing and perhaps you’re just wondering … “How do I keep my kids from fighting for 5 minutes?”

The picture is an illusion. And yet it’s real at the same time.
The beach was gorgeous. Breathtaking.
And freezing and slightly miserable too.

Your life is amazing and full of good.
And it’s full of frustration and heartache at the same time.

Enjoy what the picture has to offer and appreciate it.
And yet, don’t allow your brain believe that something is wrong with your life.
Your life is just as it should be.
Positive and negative and all of it.
That’s life. And it’s beautiful. Just like the water…

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

xo
-Molly Claire

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I usually have trash in my car…

Hey Mamas! It’s *Think it Thursday* and I usually have trash in my car…

Last week a new client came to me wondering, “how is everyone else doing it?”
(referring to motherhood and life.)
Do you ever wonder that too?

Everyone else seems to be holding it together.

A clean house.
A balanced meal on the table at night.
Homework help.
Staying in shape.
Happy kids.
Booming career.
How is everyone else doing this?

The truth is that everyone is doing great at some things, okay at others, and some things – they aren’t doing at all. And maybe that’s okay.

One of the things my friend Sherry loves about me is that every time she gets in my car I say, “don’t let any trash fall out.”
And we laugh.

Because it’s true – there’s trash in my car.

My kid’s granola bar wrappers, school papers, empty water bottles… they are everywhere most of the time. I’m not good at asking them to clear stuff out. Sometimes I’m rushing or scatter-brained. And sometimes I just don’t spend the energy worrying about it.

I used to feel embarrassed, but I don’t any more. I’m doing my best and that has to be enough.

I’m doing great at some things.
Getting by when it comes to others.
And some things, are just not happening in my life.

I can still choose to have my own back.
And so can you.

Notice what’s going great.
Do your best to improve.
Let some things go.

Love yourself no matter what.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!
xo
-Molly Claire

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the secret to more energy

It’s *Think it Thursday* and I’m sharing with you the secret to more energy.

I’m teaching you something today that is my lifeline.

Some of you know I have chronic fatigue and it’s a constant challenge.

But this concept I’m telling you about, is a game changer.

Because we all get exhausted and worn out, especially as a mom.

My secret – energy management.

We hear a lot about time management, but the truth is that if you had more energy, you would make much better use of your time, right?

You can’t create more hours in the day, but you can create more energy.

There are certain things you do that energize you – maybe it’s alone time, maybe it’s social time.  Maybe it’s laughing or creating.  Take a minute to notice what energizes you.

There are other things that require more mental and emotional energy.  Leading kids in chores, balancing the budget, or sifting through your schedule for the week… stack these up and it could leave you spent, exhausted, with nothing left to give.

The key is to plan and manage your activities based on how they impact your energy.  The right combination is all the difference.

Think about this.  Time is finite.  There are 24 hour every day, period.

Energy is fluid.  You can manage your energy by building in plenty of activities that increase your energy, amongst those that drain it.

So today, here is your assignment:

List energizing and energy-depleting activities.  Plan them in to support you having sustained energy.  Revisit this idea often and just notice how you have the ability to manage your energy.

Magic.

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

Xoxo

-Molly Claire

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live it up

It’s *Think it Thursday* and it’s time to live it up –

As some of you know, I’m a single mom.  Take the pressure to be a good mom and amplify it – because now you feel like you’re making up for extra problems your kids have to deal with.

The secret I’ve discovered for being a better mom for them, is living it up.  Yep, having fun it so important. I don’t believe the lie that there’s no time for it, just because I have a lot of responsibilities.

Fun and laughter – is my lifeline.

If you feel exhausted and spread thin too often, maybe you need to have more fun too.

I usually blast music in the car and dance (especially when the person in front of me notices in their rear-view mirror and starts laughing).

Sometimes I sneak away with my friends and tell my kiddos they just need to fend for themselves for dinner.  I know it will be a mess when I get home and I’m not really sure what they’ll actually eat – but I just let it go.

And whenever possible – I laugh.  I especially laugh at my own jokes, because why not?

Fun and laughter will create energy for you.  They will remind you that you’re a person separate from “mom.”

Have fun.

Laugh.

Sing and dance – and make people smile.

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire