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Life. It doesn’t get any better.

It’s *Think it Thursday* and yesterday I had a good cry with a friend of mine.

A long one.

We were talking about the crazy twists and turns of life.
Loss, heartache, frustrations.
We talked about how the challenges of life – never really go away.
We always think that life will be better once X, Y, or Z is over.

But there’s always another challenge just around the corner.

Why the downer blog today?  Well, I actually don’t see it as a downer at all.

Because while I know that hard things are inevitable in the future, I also know that I can handle it. I know I can survive any emotion.  I can feel and process my feelings, and be okay.

I understand how my brain works and that often my brain will compound the stress I’m experiencing.  Because I have these coaching tools – I can eliminate unnecessary suffering, even if it doesn’t extinguish all the pain.

That’s why the key to a better life isn’t fixing what’s happening around us, but in understanding how to navigate what’s happening around us.  When we trust the process of life, we can handle it.  We can see more clearly and become stronger.

That’s what I teach my clients how to do to.
Life doesn’t get easier, but your ability to do life – can get better every single day.  That’s good news.  Your circumstances don’t have to change.  You can.

Life’s amazing and good and fun.
And it’s also hard and painful and sad.
It’s all of it, which makes it meaningful.
And that’s how we become who we are meant to be.

You’ve got this.  I promise.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

Indecision

Hey Mamas!  It’s time for *Mindset Monday*…

One of my clients has had a really hard time committing to a morning routine.  She does best with a plan, but hates to lock herself in.  She enjoys some flexibility.

She’s been trying to establish that morning routine for years.

She said it’s hard to decide how best to do it.

She said it’s a challenge to pick the right time so she’s not tired.

Her brain was making it so much more complicated than it needed to be.

The only reason getting up early was making her tired was because of all the indecision she was allowing to happen.

Indecision is exhausting and it’s the fastest route to nowhere.

So, we decided she needed to commit.  She chose right then and there on our call.

She chose her wake up time, what her routine consisted of, and how long she would continue that plan.

Then end.  Decision made.

She felt relieved that’s she’d made a decision and was going to do it no matter what.

Now if she was a little tired, she could figure out how to compensate – but the wake up time was not negotiable.

Where does indecision have you stuck?  What if you had to make a decision today?  What freedom might you feel as you move out of indecision and into intentional action?

Have a great week!

-Molly Claire

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I resent that.

It’s time for *Think it Thursday* and it’s all about resentment.

Such an ugly word, right?

I’ve had 4 conversations about resentment with clients this week.  And then, just yesterday – I experienced my own feeling of resentment coming up.

And so, it’s time we talk about it.

Jackie was feeling resentment toward her extended family.  She was offering them her time to complete a project and she felt unappreciated and disrespected.  She couldn’t understand how to feel anything but resentment.  It seemed to be her only option.

But it wasn’t.  We always have an option in the feelings we choose to create.

So why would we ever choose resentment? Why do we?

And why do we hang on to it?

And what in the world do we do about it?

Jackie had a hard time releasing the resentment for one simple reason – if she didn’t feel resentful then it seemed that she was disrespecting herself.  Her mind was telling her that if she felt resentment it would somehow be fighting for what she wanted from her family.  As if it was helping her get the result she wanted.

But it wasn’t.

The only thing resentment was doing was ruining her experience.  She was still helping her family, but rather than feeling like a giving and loving person, she was feeling tight and unhappy.

Resentment is never useful.  It never enhances your experience and it never gets you closer to what you really want.

And resentment…. is optional.

Just like all emotions it’s a feeling you create.

Jackie decided she wanted to create something better.  She decided to feel good about the kind of person she is and appreciate herself for it.  She felt proud that she’s a person who does what she says.  She felt generous as she rearranged her schedule because she wanted to.

It didn’t matter what her family said or did.  She was creating the feelings she wanted for her.  And feeling amazing.

If resentment is fooling you into thinking it’s useful, now you know.

You can create the experience you want, regardless of the circumstance.

What is resentment telling your brain it’s doing?  How does it seem to be helping you?  If you release the resentment, what do you fear you’re giving up?  Think about it.  Understanding what’s happening in your brain is the first step in creating something better.

Need a little help?  Click Here to schedule a release the resentment mini-session and we’ll get you started.

Remember,

You create your feelings.

Create good ones.

Feel amazing. 

Have a great week, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

Life Redesign Coach

 

 

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One small step is all you need…

My friend Jody has built an awesome business.  She’s a mom of 4 and has a full life.  Her secret to success?  She starts everything with one small step.

Then, she takes the next step.

She puts one foot in front of the other, and keeps going.

She doesn’t spend time obsessing over making decisions and she doesn’t indulge in thinking “there’s too much to do.”

She just looks at what she wants, and takes a step.

It doesn’t matter how small the step is… as long as there is another one close behind it.

What have you been putting off getting started on? What task or goal is looming ahead and seems overwhelming?

What if you took one small step today, and another one tomorrow?

What if every day for the next year, you took a new tiny step?

What would you create?

I want to help you take a tiny step in your life (and I’ll even hold your hand through it).

If you are a mom who sometimes feels overwhelmed, exhausted, or inadequate – this is for you.

I’m offering a 1-hour webinar to teach you small ways you can simplify life and feel better.

I’m going to teach you the 7 “Mom Traps” and how you can climb OUT of them.

It’s time to be the happy, relaxed, confident woman you want to be.

Click Here to choose a date and time.

Oh, and don’t forget to forward this to a mom you know and love <3

Can’t wait to see you there!

-Molly Claire

The Gift of Deciding

Today is my daughter’s birthday.

She’s headstrong, wild, and determined.
She’s so much fun that it’s easy to be her mom.
Except when it seems like it might take at least a decade off of my life…

I remember when we made the decision to add a third child and how certain I was.
I knew exactly what I wanted, without hesitation.
I also had no idea what to really expect and no way of knowing who or what was really coming my way.  That decision was one that was made and done.  It didn’t matter what unknown came up, or how difficult things would be, there was (and is) no going back on it.

Can you imagine what it would be like to make a decision about that change you’ve been wanting to make, with no option of going back?  It might seem scary, but it’s actually so much easier.

If you decided to lose weight, come what may, and there was no option to do anything different – can you see that you might feel freedom?

If you committed to self-compassion when it comes to being a mom and all the other insecurities that come up, what if there was no other destination possible?

Or how about that side business you’ve been wishing would be profitable?  What if the decision was one and done and your only job was to stay the course and make it work?

Decisions can feel scary, but making them brings so much freedom.

Make 1 decision today, big or small and make it happen.  Can you give yourself that gift of freedom?

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

P.S. – I can help! Click Here to schedule a “make the decision” mini session.  It’s 20 minutes, it’s free, and it’s for you.