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listen please

*Think it Thursday* and listen please

My 7-year old daughter is a girl who knows what she wants.
And she’s not afraid to say it.
(It’s amazing)

The other day she was telling me about a girl at school that’s really mean. I asked her if maybe that girl is unhappy and that’s why she’s mean. I was trying to get her to see the other girl’s point of view.

And THIS is what my daughter said.

“Mom, you’re always trying to mentor me. You ask me all of these questions and it turns into a session (lol, right?).”

“Mom, what I really want is for you to just listen to me.”

And I heard her loud and clear. There are times and ways that I can teach her, but sometimes I just need to listen. She wants to come to me and connect. She wants to say how she’s feeling or what her experience is, without me trying to change it.

I can do that. I can listen.

How about you? Do you listen?

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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it’s okay if you don’t like me

It’s *Think it Thursday* and it’s okay if you don’t like me –

My son didn’t want to go to school.

He was mad at me when I said that no fever means… he’s going to school.
He begged, and he pleaded. He tried to make me feel guilty.

I started to feel annoyed.
But I knew that the only reason I was feeling annoyed – was because of what I was thinking.

I was thinking that he shouldn’t beg and plead. I was thinking that it “shouldn’t be this hard.”
I was wanting him to like me and approve of my parenting (funny when I say it out loud, right?!)
I was arguing with reality.

Of course he would beg and plead – he’s 13 and he wants his way.
Of course parenting isn’t easy.

And of course, sometimes he just won’t like me. And maybe that’s okay.

I told him that I love him, and he’s going to school, and it’s okay if he doesn’t like me.
I will love him anyway.

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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you’re going to be okay

*Think it Thursday* and you’re going to be okay –

Today’s one of those days that I’m getting personal.

I’m speaking to those of you who feel you’re in a dark place, stuck, and wondering how you will make it through whatever challenge you are facing.

You may be feeling fear and worry that things won’t get better in your life.

I know just how you feel.

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know that I’ve been redesigning my life and creating a new normal over the last few years as I’m navigating life as a single mom. I’ve been managing the ups and downs of chronic fatigue and trying to keep the faith that it will get better.

I’ve been forging ahead and yet – I’m sort of breathing a sigh of relief lately.  I feel that sense of, wow I made it through – and I’m still standing.  I’m still moving forward.

I remember feeling so much fear and experiencing deep sadness.
I remember so much uncertainty and wishing it would all just go away.

I’ve been putting one foot in front of the other and it wasn’t until recently that I had an appreciation for how much I’ve come through and what I’ve overcome.  Not because of me, but because of the possibilities that life allows us.

Within you is the ability to overcome every challenge in front of you.  Even when it’s not easy.

And believe me – it never feels easy. 

If you’re reading this and feeling that you can’t keep going– I understand.
If you’re wondering if you’ll make it through – I understand.
If you’re thinking the end of this challenge should be sooner rather than later – I totally understand.

And yet I promise you – you can handle this challenge in front of you.  

You are capable, and you are strong.  

You were designed to overcome this challenge.

Your faith, your strength, and your courage will come together as a force of nature.  You’ll do it.  I promise.

Sending you extra love today.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

Xoxo

– Molly Claire

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1:1

It’s *Think it Thursday* and 1:1 –

I went away last weekend with my oldest son – just the two of us. I was determined to make it happen, and so grateful that we could pull it off.

It was the best time spent not because of the sights and the food (even though they were amazing), but really because we were connecting.

There were no email notifications, no, “wait just a minute,” and plenty of time to talk about how things are going.

Priceless.

Maybe it won’t be a full weekend, but find time for 1:1 connection time with the people that matter most in your life.

It can be 5 minutes of “how was your day?”
It might be 10 minutes of walking around the block to chat.
Or maybe perhaps turning off your phone while you fold laundry together.

Take the time, make the time, you won’t regret it.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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love

*Think it Thursday* and love

All your kids need is love.

It’s easy to think that we need to do SO many things for our kids in order to ensure their success and happiness. It’s easy to let these expectations stress us out and take away from what’s most important.

Which is… love.

Your kids just want you there. They don’t need expensive things. They don’t need a home in perfect order. They don’t need to eat organic for every meal of the day.

What they need, is love. Unconditional, never ending, always meaningful – love.

Are you giving it to them?

Get rid of the unnecessary and focus on what matters most.  I’m working on doing the same.

Think about it.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire