Anyone watching the final moments of this last Super Bowl cannot deny that men have feelings. From disappointment and rage, to the exhilaration of a touchdown – the field is certain proof of men’s feelings and how powerful they are.
The passion that comes out on the football field, and from the couches of homes across America, is astronomical! And yet time and again, I talk with men who are hesitant to even acknowledge that they HAVE feelings. And most don’t see how they are relevant in their daily lives.
Success, on the other hand, is a word that resonates with every man that I have spoken with. Success seems to be a universal aspiration, something that men wear as a badge of honor.
Now comes the painful truth… you can’t have one without the other! Yes, it’s true – your feelings are the momentum behind your success (or lack thereof). So if you want more success – you need to acknowledge, understand and create the right feelings in your life.
Our thoughts cause our feelings, which lead to actions, which create results. This is a pattern that is always happening in our lives, whether we know it or not. Positive feelings will lead to positive actions and results. The opposite is also true. Feelings and thoughts are not tangible, and can seem insignificant. But let’s get some perspective on how this pattern plays out in your life.
While each person is different, there are certain feelings that will be motivating for you. What feelings motivate you to improve and succeed? Feeling confident? Empowered? Optimistic? Enthusiastic? Whatever the feelings are that motivate you, tune in to them, acknowledge them, and find out how to invite them into your life more often.
How can you do this? We have traced actions back to feelings, so now we can trace feelings back to THOUGHTS.
How do you view the world around you? When you receive criticism at work, do you think of it as a negative reflection on you, and get discouraged? OR, do you think of it as an OPPORTUNITY to learn and improve? This is a quick and easy example of 2 different ways of thinking. One leads to discouragement, the other leads to empowerment. Same situation, different thought, COMPLETELY different result.
In one quick easy-read nutshell, this is it. THIS is the difference between success and failure – what thoughts you choose and the feelings they create.
While this post is short and simple, putting it into action takes an enormous amount of effort on a consistent basis. Yes, it can be hard to see the forest through the trees when it comes to our own lives. However, the effort it requires is well worth the results. If you can understand and embrace this simple principle – and work to put it into action – it will be completely life-changing.