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I usually have trash in my car…

Hey Mamas! It’s *Think it Thursday* and I usually have trash in my car…

Last week a new client came to me wondering, “how is everyone else doing it?”
(referring to motherhood and life.)
Do you ever wonder that too?

Everyone else seems to be holding it together.

A clean house.
A balanced meal on the table at night.
Homework help.
Staying in shape.
Happy kids.
Booming career.
How is everyone else doing this?

The truth is that everyone is doing great at some things, okay at others, and some things – they aren’t doing at all. And maybe that’s okay.

One of the things my friend Sherry loves about me is that every time she gets in my car I say, “don’t let any trash fall out.”
And we laugh.

Because it’s true – there’s trash in my car.

My kid’s granola bar wrappers, school papers, empty water bottles… they are everywhere most of the time. I’m not good at asking them to clear stuff out. Sometimes I’m rushing or scatter-brained. And sometimes I just don’t spend the energy worrying about it.

I used to feel embarrassed, but I don’t any more. I’m doing my best and that has to be enough.

I’m doing great at some things.
Getting by when it comes to others.
And some things, are just not happening in my life.

I can still choose to have my own back.
And so can you.

Notice what’s going great.
Do your best to improve.
Let some things go.

Love yourself no matter what.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!
xo
-Molly Claire

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the secret to more energy

It’s *Think it Thursday* and I’m sharing with you the secret to more energy.

I’m teaching you something today that is my lifeline.

Some of you know I have chronic fatigue and it’s a constant challenge.

But this concept I’m telling you about, is a game changer.

Because we all get exhausted and worn out, especially as a mom.

My secret – energy management.

We hear a lot about time management, but the truth is that if you had more energy, you would make much better use of your time, right?

You can’t create more hours in the day, but you can create more energy.

There are certain things you do that energize you – maybe it’s alone time, maybe it’s social time.  Maybe it’s laughing or creating.  Take a minute to notice what energizes you.

There are other things that require more mental and emotional energy.  Leading kids in chores, balancing the budget, or sifting through your schedule for the week… stack these up and it could leave you spent, exhausted, with nothing left to give.

The key is to plan and manage your activities based on how they impact your energy.  The right combination is all the difference.

Think about this.  Time is finite.  There are 24 hour every day, period.

Energy is fluid.  You can manage your energy by building in plenty of activities that increase your energy, amongst those that drain it.

So today, here is your assignment:

List energizing and energy-depleting activities.  Plan them in to support you having sustained energy.  Revisit this idea often and just notice how you have the ability to manage your energy.

Magic.

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

Xoxo

-Molly Claire

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live it up

It’s *Think it Thursday* and it’s time to live it up –

As some of you know, I’m a single mom.  Take the pressure to be a good mom and amplify it – because now you feel like you’re making up for extra problems your kids have to deal with.

The secret I’ve discovered for being a better mom for them, is living it up.  Yep, having fun it so important. I don’t believe the lie that there’s no time for it, just because I have a lot of responsibilities.

Fun and laughter – is my lifeline.

If you feel exhausted and spread thin too often, maybe you need to have more fun too.

I usually blast music in the car and dance (especially when the person in front of me notices in their rear-view mirror and starts laughing).

Sometimes I sneak away with my friends and tell my kiddos they just need to fend for themselves for dinner.  I know it will be a mess when I get home and I’m not really sure what they’ll actually eat – but I just let it go.

And whenever possible – I laugh.  I especially laugh at my own jokes, because why not?

Fun and laughter will create energy for you.  They will remind you that you’re a person separate from “mom.”

Have fun.

Laugh.

Sing and dance – and make people smile.

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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Moms on a Mission

Do you ever hide in the pantry (with chocolate chips) just to get a minute to yourself in need of some serious self-care?

This week for *Think it Thursday*, I’ve got something awesome for you!

If you find yourself overwhelmed, but wishing for more peaceful relationships with your kids – stay tuned.

I am SO excited to announce a collaboration with my friend Maurine Free Huber that will leave you feeling peacefulnurtured and empowered!

Because you are a valued member of my community, I have a complimentary spot in this online summit saved for you HERE.

I teamed up with Maurine because I know that when you take time to care for yourself you are able to unlock peacefulness and be truly present for your kids.

In this summit you’ll learn tips and tricks and get re-centered on what’s most important.

It starts next week, so sign up (free) now for The Peaceful Motherhood Summit: How to Nurture Yourself and be Fully Present for Your Children 

My friend, also a motherhood coach, Maurine Free Huber, is talking to 21 experts in the field of parenting, nutrition, mindfulness, and belief who are living the way they have dreamed and raising loving peaceful families.

The experts give their honest answers about their personal parenting experiences, and practical applications so that you can start living a life of passion, where you nurture yourself and your children.

HERE’S WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO EXPERIENCE:

  • Interviews: Short mama friendly interviews. Each interview is just 20 minutes or less making it easy for you to tune in.
  • Real Talk with Real mamas: Experts in self-care, nutrition, mindfulness, and parenting
  • Strategies: Tips and tricks to make yourself a priority without the dreaded “mom guilt”
  • Community: I believe we need to know we are not alone on this journey of motherhood!

Join me HERE.

I can’t wait to “see” you there!

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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Yelling at the kids

*Think it Thursday* and yelling at the kids –

My client Caroline keeps losing it every time her son throws a tantrum.  She holds it together for a while, and then – she can’t. He is unreasonable.  He doesn’t listen.  He should not be acting that way.

We talked last week about why it’s so challenging for her.  She thought it was just his behavior that bothered her, but we came to realize it’s really because she’s afraid she’s failing as a mom.

She makes his behavior mean that she’s not doing a good job.  And that feels terrible.  When that fear of inadequacy builds up inside of her – she loses it.

 And suddenly she is the one acting unreasonable. 

No one wants to act unreasonable.  You don’t, and neither do your kids.  But sometimes… it just happens.

What if your kids’ unreasonable behavior is just a weak moment or a challenging task?

What if it will pass and it’s not worth getting so upset about?

What if you can both learn from it, rather than believe it’s a sign that everything is going terribly wrong?

Try that on for size and see what happens.  You may find it much easier to stay calm and solution-minded. And perhaps you can be reasonable, even when they aren’t.

You’re doing amazing things, mama.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire