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You Deserve the Best

You deserve to be treated with love and respect today.

Did you know that?

I know it.

And I deserve it too.

I wonder how you can treat yourself that way today?

Will you say something kind when you look in the mirror?

Will you take time for a walk around the block when you’re feeling stressed?

Will you remind yourself that you’re valuable, even though everyone in the house is taking you for granted?

I hope you do all of those things.

And more.

You deserve it.

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

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Create Evidence

A lot of my clients are afraid they won’t follow through. In fact, this fear is one of the biggest reasons they don’t commit to their goals.

A fear. That they won’t follow through.

What’s funny is that they are fully in charge of whether or not they follow through.

It’s not dependent on anyone else. Just them.

And that’s true for you too.

We never have to fear or wonder if we’ll follow through, because we get to decide that.

One of my favorite tricks is to focus on creating evidence for myself. If I tell myself that I’ll get up 30 minutes earlier to plan my day, then every time I do I use it as evidence for myself.

I love to use the question, “How can I create evidence that I’ll follow through?”

This question will always move me toward taking action toward my commitment. And the more evidence I create, the more evidence I have.

And before you know it, I believe that I will follow through.

And I do.

Have a great week!

Are You Better?

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Are you better off now than you were a year ago? Is your health better? Do you yell at your kids any less? Have you reduced your level of stress and increased your level of personal achievement?

The problem with New Year’s resolutions is that we rarely place them in the bigger picture of where we are actually trying to go with our lives.

We pick something that sounds like a great idea, and before we know it… it’s mid-February and the great idea is a distant memory.

Equally important as setting goals, is reflecting on how far we’ve come.

In my BLOG this week I share an easy (and super important) idea about how you can focus on how far you’ve come over the last year. I talk there about how easy it is to ignore our milestones, rather than celebrating or building upon them. This is a huge wasted opportunity – so be sure to check it out here.

When you ask yourself today, “Am I better off than I was a year ago?” I want you to also imagine how you’ll answer that question next year.

Will you be better off?

Will you have met your goals and improved your relationships?

Will you be one step closer to being the person you really want to be?

If you want the answer to these questions to be yes, then what is your plan to get there?

You are always either moving closer to your goals, or farther away from them. There is no standing still.

If you want to take 2017 seriously, I’m here to help you.

I’ve got a complimentary mini session waiting for you in January. Let’s assess how we can move you toward that “better you” that’s coming in the new year.

Is she less stressed and more confident with daily life as a mom?

Is she more connected with her kids or her husband?

Does her side-business take off?

Does she finally learn how to practice self-care, so she can feel energized again?

Let’s talk about what’s in store for you, and how to make it happen.

Spark Some Motivation for 2017 – 4 Easy Steps

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The new year is just around the corner, and I can feel the buzz of new possibilities.

We have a fresh start for our goals.

We know THIS will be the year that we really do it. (Whatever “it” may be…)

It’s great to be forward-focused, and yet I’m going to focus here on the value of looking back.

This pre-New Year’s activity is a must to create motivation and vision for the year to come!

Last year I was challenged to create a vision board of all my accomplishments from the previous year. I was doing the project with a group and I wasn’t sure I had much worth showcasing. I was already believing the story in my head that I “didn’t do much.” To be honest, it seemed like a waste of time.

It turned out to be the best thing I could have done for myself. As I went through each tiny milestone and experience I couldn’t believe how far I’d come. I hadn’t noticed along the way, but there it was right in front of me.

You may not feel like you’ve accomplished much this last year, and that’s exactly why you NEED to do this activity. I promise you’ve done far more than you realize.

We move through life noticing a lot of things we don’t do. We rarely focus on our success and our “wins.” We don’t take the time to appreciate them and understand how we actually created them.

Taking a minute to notice the progress we’ve made (and the success we have created) is a huge motivator. It builds our confidence and strengthens the belief we have in ourselves that we can accomplish anything we set our minds to.

I remember when my son struggled to read in kindergarten. It was a painful process (for both of us…) Now as a teenager, he is an amazing reader. He doesn’t think about how much work he put into it. It seems like it comes easily to him. He takes his current level of ability for granted.

We do the exact same thing when we don’t notice our progress, and we miss an opportunity to have even more continued growth.

Business Coach and founder of the 90-day year Todd Herman talks about the “oww” brain and the “wow” brain. The “oww” brain only notices how far we have to go. If you have a “wow” brain, you are always noticing how far you’ve come, which perpetuates your continued success.

So here it is – 4 easy steps to create your “Celebration Board” and spark motivation for 2017:

1. Schedule an hour to work on it. It’s essential to making improvements in the new year, so make it a priority.

2. Make a list. Start listing all the things you accomplished for each month during the last year. Look back at your calendar or journals. Keep digging as if you were presenting your year to a large group. List as many accomplishments, big or small, that you can think of.

3. Do it YOUR way.

  • Poster board, markers, magazines, pictures. Standard and simple – can’t go wrong!
  • Go digital – Create a digital collage. There are so many pictures available online and you can easily incorporate your own family pictures too. Use the collage as a screen saver or something else that you will see often.
  • Bring out the artist in you – painting a collage is a new way of seeing your progress. You can use pictures to symbolize your accomplishments. There’s no right or wrong, just create something that’s meaningful to you.
  • Video – Create a slide show or video showcasing pictures and accomplishments for the last year. This one will take a bit more time, but if you enjoy doing it, it may be the perfect project to have your teenagers help you with.

4. Share it with those you love! Do this project with your sister, a friend, your husband, or even your kids. Share your success with those you love. They will be happy to celebrate your success with you, and you can offer them the same.

Have an amazing New Year full of new accomplishments and continued growth!

How do you regret-proof your life?

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My friend Suzy is a regret-proofing coach.

I love her message.

I hadn’t put a name to it, but I realized recently that I’ve started to regret-proof my life.

Last week I took my kids on a getaway that I’ve wanted to do for 12 years.  12 years – can you believe I waited so long?  It was a 30-minute drive and cost a little more than a car payment… and yet, I waited.

Why do we wait?  Sometimes we don’t feel we can justify spending money.

Sometimes we think there will be a “better time.”  Or that it will be “too much work,” or “too crowded.”

None of these were good enough reasons for me to put it off one more day.

I packed their bags without them knowing, picked them up early and surprised them!  I think it was more exciting for me than for them…

What have you been waiting for?  Putting off?  Questioning if it’s worth doing?

If it’s been on your mind for a while – perhaps you should consider doing it.

Take the trip. Try something new. Spend time with the people who matter the most.

My guess is, you won’t regret it.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!