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coming back to life

I’m coming back to life.

No, actually – I came back to life all in one day – just like that.

Last week, after months of struggling, I finally had that magical moment of clarity with my coach about what I need to do.

Within hours I felt myself waking up, feeling like myself again, and flowing with passion about my purpose in life.

Do you know that feeling?

Here’s what happened…

In 2017 I created an offshoot of my business based on what I thought I was “supposed” to do.

The experts in my field told me I should. I was turning away from my passion.

I tried to talk myself into it saying it was a worthy cause combined with a brilliant business plan.

The experts know what they are talking about, right?!

What do I know?

Turns out, I know a lot. I know what is genuine for me. I know what feels like the right move for me in my life and my business. I know what my true genius and passion is. And when I stay true to that – everything works.

Are you doing what you’re “supposed” to be doing, but feeling bogged down, burned out and frustrated? Really think about it.

What’s it like to think about doing what you want instead?

Doing what feels right to you?

Doing what feels like your authentic self?

Ask yourself that, and feel the energy. Really, just feel it.

Isn’t that the kind of energy you want guiding you in life?

I do. 100%

I wondered why I wasn’t myself for so long. I was pushing through and gearing up, but the light inside was always flickering. It’s easy to fool myself because I still stay positive and smile and muster up the energy I need. But inside… it just wasn’t working.

In that moment last week – the light came back.

What can you do to get your light back? What do you really want to do to stay true to you, your desires and your genius? And what will it be like to live life from that energy?

Think about it. You deserve it.

-Molly Claire

Decide now

A lot of my clients get so worried about the holidays.

“It’s so busy.”
“There’s so much to do.”
“I get so overwhelmed.”

They worry that life will feel so out of control over those weeks.

But I say, decide now.

Decide now how you’ll experience December.

Think about how you really want to spend your time and do it.

Drop everyone else’s expectations and decide what’s most important to you.

Focus on relationships. Focus on your favorite moments.

Think about creating memories.

Take full responsibility for your experience and make it exactly what you want it to be.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

– Molly Claire

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who’s fault?

The best thing I can ever tell you is that you’re going to feel a lot of negative emotions in your life.

Knowing this will save you from so much suffering.

It will reduce anxiety and fear.

It will save you from feeling the need to blame.

You see when we feel something negative, we think it shouldn’t be happening.

And so, we blame.

This is what it looks like for my clients:

My kids are fighting, and I feel upset…It’s their dad’s fault for parenting them wrong and I’m so angry.

My adopted teenagers don’t respect me and I feel so hurt…It’s so unfair that I didn’t get to have biological kids because then it would be different. I feel resentful.

My son is always getting in trouble at school and I’m so worried. I blame myself and I sit in self-loathing.

So much blame and anger and none of it is necessary.

Negative emotions will happen and maybe it’s okay to just notice that they are happening. Maybe no one is to blame. Maybe you can just focus on moving forward and finding solutions instead.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

– Molly Claire

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unexpected family

Last weekend my daughter was baptized, and it was honestly like a dream come true.

For her, and for me.

The pictures didn’t look the way I expected they would 8 years ago.

The dream I had then, was not the dream that came true this weekend.

Except in all the ways it was exactly the same dream.

I didn’t know then that I would be a single mom.

I didn’t expect that she would have a bonus mom and a half-sibling on the way.

I didn’t realize that my in-laws, who I adore, would be “ex” in-laws.

And I certainly never would have believed that I would feel so grateful about all of it.

The dream looked so different, but the love, connection, and happiness that I really wanted – was all there.

I feel so blessed that even though things don’t always go as planned, God grants us greater blessings than we can ever imagine.

I’m so grateful that my kids get to have even more people in their life that love them.

What a gift.

Even when your hopes and dreams seem to be out of reach, the experience you want can always happen. Create the relationships you want.

Keep focused on what’s most important. Allow God to work miracles.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

– Molly

Embracing discomfort with life changes

life changes

Letting go of something that’s been a part of our lives for a long time is hard.  But going through major life changes requires it.

We resist letting go of what’s been our “normal.”

We fear the unknown that lies ahead.

Even when it’s for the best and great things are yet to come, change is hard.

 

I have a few clients going through major (and minor) life changes right now who are experiencing this phenomenon.

Sarah is beginning the process of divorce.  She is ready, and yet she’s not.  She’s confident, and terrified at the same time.

 

Jennifer is going through a major change at work.  After more than 10 years invested in her company, it’s all going to be new and different.  New systems, new rules, new philosophies. She feels a sense of loss.

 

Ellen is letting go of worry.  She has worried her whole life and the constant discomfort she feels is familiar and safe.  As we are working to create new patterns for her that include calmness and mental presence, she finds herself resisting.

 

No matter what life change is happening for you, you may find yourself resisting too.

Just because a change is positive, doesn’t mean it is devoid of resistance and fear.

This very resistance and fear is usually what keeps us from making positive changes in our lives.

For those of you going through a major change – I’m sending you peaceful thoughts of strength and perspective.  The fear, sadness, and resistance you are experiencing is normal.  Allow it to be there as you move forward and embrace the good.

The more we can make peace with those uncomfortable feelings that accompany change, the more we open our lives up to the constant improvement and change that we crave.

 

So for today – embrace a little discomfort.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

with love,

Molly