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he was furious

My son was furious with me this week.

He wanted to do something and I said no.

I didn’t think it was in his best interest at all.

I say yes most of the time – whenever I can.

But this time, it was a no.

He threw a teenage tantrum. He said mean things to me. He was unreasonable and pushing every last limit in the way he was behaving.

And I decided it was okay. I held the line. I drew some personal boundaries for myself and let him freak out in the way he wanted to, as long as it didn’t cross into my space.

Sometimes your kids don’t like what you have to say, and maybe that’s okay.

They can think and feel a lot of negative things about you, and it doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong.

You can stay peaceful, even when they aren’t.

Give it a try.

Have a great day -one thought at a time!

-Molly

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who’s fault?

The best thing I can ever tell you is that you’re going to feel a lot of negative emotions in your life.

Knowing this will save you from so much suffering.

It will reduce anxiety and fear.

It will save you from feeling the need to blame.

You see when we feel something negative, we think it shouldn’t be happening.

And so, we blame.

This is what it looks like for my clients:

My kids are fighting, and I feel upset…It’s their dad’s fault for parenting them wrong and I’m so angry.

My adopted teenagers don’t respect me and I feel so hurt…It’s so unfair that I didn’t get to have biological kids because then it would be different. I feel resentful.

My son is always getting in trouble at school and I’m so worried. I blame myself and I sit in self-loathing.

So much blame and anger and none of it is necessary.

Negative emotions will happen and maybe it’s okay to just notice that they are happening. Maybe no one is to blame. Maybe you can just focus on moving forward and finding solutions instead.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

– Molly Claire

the best day of my life

Today is the best day.  I drove 2 of my kids to school, which I normally don’t do since they ride the bus.

I have family coming in today for my son’s concert.

I can’t wait to have my favorite pork tacos with them.

I’m dying to see my son perform today.

I’m excited to have everyone cram into my house tonight for a sleepover.

The sun is out and it’s beautiful.

I told my daughter today in the car on our drive, “today is the best day ever.”

She was quick to tell me that I said that on Saturday.

The great thing is that I can decide that today is the best new day if I want to.

I can decide that it’s even better than the last great day.  When I’m appreciating all the little things and making them mean that it’s the best day – it’s so much fun.

Why is today the best day for you?  What if you believed it was?
What would you see?  How would you feel?

Enjoy your day – one thought at a time!

Xoxo

– Molly Claire

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do you read these?

It’s *Think it Thursday* and do you read these blogs?

I hope you do.

Last week a woman emailed me asking about coaching. She told me that she gets more out of these short weekly blogs than she does her therapy appointments.

I was so happy to hear it! Not because of me.

(After all, I’m just the vessel for these messages.)

I was happy because she is taking the time to read them and think about how it pertains to her. She’s allowing them to make a difference in her life. The email is the same for all of the thousands of people who receive it – but she is allowing it in.

Do you allow them in? Do you open yourself up to growth and change?

I hope so. You’re amazing. You deserve good things in your life.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

– Molly Claire

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1:1

It’s *Think it Thursday* and 1:1 –

I went away last weekend with my oldest son – just the two of us. I was determined to make it happen, and so grateful that we could pull it off.

It was the best time spent not because of the sights and the food (even though they were amazing), but really because we were connecting.

There were no email notifications, no, “wait just a minute,” and plenty of time to talk about how things are going.

Priceless.

Maybe it won’t be a full weekend, but find time for 1:1 connection time with the people that matter most in your life.

It can be 5 minutes of “how was your day?”
It might be 10 minutes of walking around the block to chat.
Or maybe perhaps turning off your phone while you fold laundry together.

Take the time, make the time, you won’t regret it.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire