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Do it anyway: a key to success

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It’s time for *Mindset Monday*

Created for Entrepreneurs, Moms, and other Life Change-Agents.  Let’s go.

As an entrepreneur, hopefully you’ve created a business that you love.

You’ve taken your passion and your gifts, and you offer them to the world.  You create your schedule.  You set things up the way you want them to be, for the kind of business you want to have.

 

But sometimes, you may not want to go to work.

Sometimes you don’t want to crunch the numbers.

Sometimes you’d rather do anything than what’s on your agenda.

 

But as a successful business owner…you do it anyway.

Part of being committed to your success is doing things, even when you don’t feel like it.

You’ve already made a decision to be consistent and create success.  Because of that commitment, come rain or shine… you do it anyway.

This week rather than debate about whether or not you will do what’s on your agenda, remind yourself of the success you are working toward, and do it anyway. 

When you start to wallow or dread, do it anyway.

When something more exciting in the moment is pulling you away from what you planned… do it anyway.

Not because you “have” to, but because you are committed to your own success.

Because you are willing to invest in you.

Make it a great week!

-Molly

 

 

 

Secret to Life: Messes and Fresh Perspectives

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I’ve been out of town for 10 days and came home to find my fridge a complete mess.

No, nothing actually happened to the fridge in those 10 days.  It’s just that after being away from it… I noticed how badly it needed to be cleaned out.

Did the door handles really look like that when I left?  What about that spill on the second shelf?  How did I not notice that?

This happens every time I’m gone for a while – I come home and notice all the things that need to be cleaned up, fixed, or changed… that I’ve just gotten used to.

Not just in my physical space, but in my relationships and emotional life as well.

So what’s the moral here?  Should I be careful not to ignore things that need to be fixed?  Or is it a good thing that I can shut out some messes and problems?  What’s the secret to life that I should be picking up on?

The answer is neither.  And both. And it totally depends.

I’m really glad that my brain can allow some little problems to go unnoticed.
I’m glad that I can focus on what’s most important and not get too caught up in fixing everything that’s out of place.

I’m also glad that I can get a fresh perspective to find out what things I’m not okay with having messy or neglected.  There are some things that I want to be different.  There are some things that warrant having a little extra TLC.  Perhaps a few things need to move to the top of the priority list.

What you want to get “used to” or ignore, is completely up to you and what you want in your life.

What needs to change and what’s “not okay” is totally your choice too.

That’s the real moral here – you get to decide.  You are the one creating your life.

If you haven’t done it in a while, get away.  Take a break from the day-to-day, even if It’s brief.  When you re-enter your life you will have new eyes.  Take everything in and decide what you want.  Decide what can stay on the back burner, and what needs to be front and center.  Make conscious decisions.  Create your life.  Do it with intention.

Have a great day… one thought at a time!

And yes, I DID clean out the fridge 🙂

-Molly Claire

Solutions for Success

It’s time for *Mindset Monday* and today we’re talking about SOLUTIONS.

Any success that you create comes as a result of overcoming challenges.

Challenges in our business (and life) are the best opportunities to grow, yet too often we spend time complaining, fault-finding, or staying stuck in discouragement.

None of these are useful.

The most useful thing we can do with every challenge that comes our way is to focus on solutions.

This week, use the question, “What is the solution to this problem?” as often as possible.

The moment you notice yourself complaining or blaming, you can put a stop to it.  Immediately.  It’s a waste of precious time and energy.  It’s not useful.

Constantly asking yourself to find solutions will shift all of your energy.  You will find the right solutions quickly.  You will create more momentum, stability, and ultimately more success in your business.

Remember, this applies to your personal life as well.  Focus on solutions at every opportunity.  When you do you’ll find the amount of “problems” in your life will begin to diminish, and your success and happiness will grow.  Have a great week!

How do I get what I WANT in life?

Do you know what you want?  Most of us don’t.

Which is why we don’t have it.

Most of us approach life sifting through want we don’t really like, and end up feeling dissatisfied with our relationships, finances, or employment.

It’s like a casual shopping spree where nothing really stands out, this doesn’t look good, that’s not your color… but you’re not really sure what you want to begin with. 

Kids are pretty good at wanting (sometimes too good).

As a kid, I loved it when my mom would take me to Baskin Robbins.  I always knew exactly what I wanted – pink bubble gum favor.  It was easy to spot and I got exactly what I wanted.

Somewhere along the way in my life, I quit even thinking about what I wanted.  I’d met most of my “big” goals and I just kind of stopped.

I was surviving being a mom, sifting through the details of life, and didn’t really have time to think about “wanting” something.

Unmet hopes and dreams can also lead us to quit wanting.

This is when we settle for what life’s handing us, unaware that we can continue to want and create greatness. 

This is when we walk into Baskin Robbins and think,

“Hmmm, that looks boring.”

“No, definitely not sugar-free.”

“Can’t do nuts since I’m allergic…”

We spend all of our time ruling things out, without knowing what we are actually looking for.

How is it possible for us to be satisfied in our life if we have no idea what we want? 

So today, ask yourself, what do I want?

Allowing yourself to want can be a really good thing.  It helps you discover what’s important to you.  It helps you set goals and reach toward them.  It helps you move toward something more.

Oh, and by the way, the best place to start is thinking about all of the things you want, that you already have. 

Want what you want.  Appreciate what you have.

Have a great day… one thought at a time!

Sweet Peace of Chocolate

Okay moms, confession time.

Where do you hide your secret chocolate stash?  The closet?  The laundry room?

Where do you go for your moment of peace?

For me, chocolate chips in the pantry always seem to be an easy fix. So handy and so small that no matter how many you eat, it doesn’t really count as calories, right?

This tiny little habit is a clue to something much bigger.

Most likely you are not hiding and locking yourself in a confined space with chocolate because you lack self-control.

You are responding to an emotional need or hunger you have.

Let’s get curious for a minute…

What if that moment of desperation is a clue that some of your emotional needs are not being met?  Many people joke about “eating your feelings,” but it’s actually true!

Emotions are vibrations in the body and the overwhelmed, tired and desperate type of feelings do not feel good.  Your emotional need for peace, or whatever feeling you desire, is easily distracted by that chocolate.

However if hunger is not the problem, then food is not the solution.

You take care of everyone around you, please don’t leave yourself behind! I know you will say there is no time for it. You might even say it’s impossible.  But I promise – it’s not.

If you had a broken leg, would you say it was impossible to make the time to take care of it?

It’s easy to dismiss emotional distress or breaks, but make no mistake about it, they are every bit as important as physical ones. Many would argue that they are even MORE important. Not to mention there are connections between poor emotional health and physical health problems.

So, think about it. Do you need to adjust your schedule to make sure your needs are being met?

If your emotional needs were met, would it make a difference?

Would it have a positive impact on you? Your family? Your job? Your life? If the answer is yes, then wouldn’t it be worth it to make it happen?
If you think it might be worth it, here is a quick challenge:

Set an appointment for yourself everyday for 15 minutes.  Not just any appointment, but the kind that charges a fee if you miss it.

Use that time to read, rest, listen to music, walk, laugh… anything that will truly rejuvenate you.

Do that for a week straight and notice how you feel.  How do you feel when the 15 minutes is up?  How does that small change impact your day?  How does it impact your week.

One small appointment can go a long way.  Make it happen.

Need help getting started?  Click here for a mini-session to start your personal self-care plan.

with love,

Molly Claire

Mompreneur, Life Redesign Coach