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The most beautiful day (my wedding)

I got married last Saturday and the day was so beautiful.

The sun, the trees, the music.

So many people we love (including our crew of kids – mine and his).

It’s really fun to celebrate something great isn’t it?

It’s fun to create an experience, a moment in time, and to appreciate what’s good.

I’m going to always remember that day and those moments.

When I’m mad or hurt. Disappointed or frustrated.

I’m going to remember what’s good and recapture it.

Take the time today to remember a great moment in time. Recapture that feeling and learn from it. Decide to create more of it.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

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that’s inspiring

Yesterday was amazing.

The women in The Coaching Collective were connecting with each other about their dream come true life and business.

They shared their personal values with each other. They shared the things they really want in their life and what matters most to them.

They talked about how they would make those things a reality.

How awesome is that? Connecting with others about making your dreams come to fruition?!

So inspiring.

How often do you think about what you want in life?
How often do you actually believe it will happen?
What steps do you take toward realizing it?

Thinking about it and believing it are the first (and most important steps).

Are you a coach who wants to join The Coaching Collective?
The waitlist is ready for you.

For today – think about what you want in your life.

Ask yourself, what if that’s really possible?

It’s fun to dream. I highly recommend it.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

A new dress

My client Sarah wants to have more confidence.

She questions herself a lot.

She doesn’t trust herself very often. She’s afraid to say what she thinks sometimes. She’s afraid of doing things wrong.

Yes, she wants to feel more confident.

She believes that more confidence will make her a better mom, a better wife, and a better coach – a new skill she is learning.

But she’s not quite sure how to get there.

We decided that she should try on a new dress.

Sometimes we can try on a belief or a feeling just like we would try on a new dress. We aren’t really sure if we love the new dress yet, but we see how it feels. We wear it around the house to see if it’s comfortable. We notice how we feel in it. We discover what we like and what we don’t.

Sarah is trying on the feeling of confidence this week. She’s playing with the belief that she’s totally capable. She’s practicing thinking she can trust herself, without totally committing to thinking that way. She’s keeping the tag on, trying the dress on to test it out, and leaving all options on the table.

What belief do you want to try on?
What feeling do you want to create for the day?
What if you find one you really love?

Give it a try and let me know what you discover.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

German

My son is in Germany right now on an orchestra trip.

He keeps sending me messages in German.

He’s sending me pictures of food and his smiling face.

It feels like he’s growing and going his own way and I can’t believe it.

I started to go down the road of – have I taught him everything I should?

Did I let the years slip away while I was distracted with life?

Should I have been more patient?

And then I remembered… I don’t want to go down that road in my brain.

I’ve taught him a lot of things. I’ve been present a lot of the time. I’ve loved him and had days where I was totally patient. Those are the things I’m going to focus on.

What about you? What parenting moments do you focus on? What you focus on grows. Focus on the amazing – it’s so much more fun.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

escape

Lately I’ve been wanting to escape being a mom.

Like literally thinking about fleeing the country and never looking back.

It seems like such a selfish and shameful thought. A thought I didn’t want to say out loud, but I did it anyway. And when I said it out loud I felt so much relief.

The only reason I feel this way – is because I care so much about them. And I want to do a good job. I create pressure. I don’t believe I’m measuring up. And… I want to flee the country.

Sometimes my clients feel this way too… and they feel guilty about it.

They think they shouldn’t want to escape. They think they should be a better mom.

They have a book of rules about what being a good mom and a good person looks like, and there is no room for being human or having thoughts that don’t seem “good” and “positive.”

I think the rule book is wrong.

Being an amazing mom includes having all kinds of thoughts and feelings.

Loving your kids means feeling negative emotions too.

And being the perfect mom for your kids, means being you with all of your humanness – the good, the bad and the ugly. It’s all part of the deal and it’s exactly as it should be.

Be amazing today. Have compassion when you’re feeling burned out. Trust that you’re doing better than you think. And please take an extra break for me, will you?

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!