Posts

,

unexpected family

Last weekend my daughter was baptized, and it was honestly like a dream come true.

For her, and for me.

The pictures didn’t look the way I expected they would 8 years ago.

The dream I had then, was not the dream that came true this weekend.

Except in all the ways it was exactly the same dream.

I didn’t know then that I would be a single mom.

I didn’t expect that she would have a bonus mom and a half-sibling on the way.

I didn’t realize that my in-laws, who I adore, would be “ex” in-laws.

And I certainly never would have believed that I would feel so grateful about all of it.

The dream looked so different, but the love, connection, and happiness that I really wanted – was all there.

I feel so blessed that even though things don’t always go as planned, God grants us greater blessings than we can ever imagine.

I’m so grateful that my kids get to have even more people in their life that love them.

What a gift.

Even when your hopes and dreams seem to be out of reach, the experience you want can always happen. Create the relationships you want.

Keep focused on what’s most important. Allow God to work miracles.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time!

– Molly

Embracing discomfort with life changes

life changes

Letting go of something that’s been a part of our lives for a long time is hard.  But going through major life changes requires it.

We resist letting go of what’s been our “normal.”

We fear the unknown that lies ahead.

Even when it’s for the best and great things are yet to come, change is hard.

 

I have a few clients going through major (and minor) life changes right now who are experiencing this phenomenon.

Sarah is beginning the process of divorce.  She is ready, and yet she’s not.  She’s confident, and terrified at the same time.

 

Jennifer is going through a major change at work.  After more than 10 years invested in her company, it’s all going to be new and different.  New systems, new rules, new philosophies. She feels a sense of loss.

 

Ellen is letting go of worry.  She has worried her whole life and the constant discomfort she feels is familiar and safe.  As we are working to create new patterns for her that include calmness and mental presence, she finds herself resisting.

 

No matter what life change is happening for you, you may find yourself resisting too.

Just because a change is positive, doesn’t mean it is devoid of resistance and fear.

This very resistance and fear is usually what keeps us from making positive changes in our lives.

For those of you going through a major change – I’m sending you peaceful thoughts of strength and perspective.  The fear, sadness, and resistance you are experiencing is normal.  Allow it to be there as you move forward and embrace the good.

The more we can make peace with those uncomfortable feelings that accompany change, the more we open our lives up to the constant improvement and change that we crave.

 

So for today – embrace a little discomfort.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

with love,

Molly