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mastermind

Next year I’m offering a Single Mom Mastermind.

It’s going to be amazing.

Not because of what I’ll do. Or what my clients will get.

It will be amazing because of who those women will be on the other side of it.

They will feel confident as a mom.

They will feel capable of handling their life.

They will feel hopeful about their future.

They will believe in themselves more than they ever thought possible.

Now that is something worth working toward – don’t you think?

Click here to get details.

And for today – think about who you want to be in 2019. How will you be different? How will you feel different?

What will be the best thing to come out of that 12 months ahead?

Think about it today. It’s never too early to start imagining your future.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time.

-Molly Claire

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who’s fault?

The best thing I can ever tell you is that you’re going to feel a lot of negative emotions in your life.

Knowing this will save you from so much suffering.

It will reduce anxiety and fear.

It will save you from feeling the need to blame.

You see when we feel something negative, we think it shouldn’t be happening.

And so, we blame.

This is what it looks like for my clients:

My kids are fighting, and I feel upset…It’s their dad’s fault for parenting them wrong and I’m so angry.

My adopted teenagers don’t respect me and I feel so hurt…It’s so unfair that I didn’t get to have biological kids because then it would be different. I feel resentful.

My son is always getting in trouble at school and I’m so worried. I blame myself and I sit in self-loathing.

So much blame and anger and none of it is necessary.

Negative emotions will happen and maybe it’s okay to just notice that they are happening. Maybe no one is to blame. Maybe you can just focus on moving forward and finding solutions instead.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

– Molly Claire

the best day of my life

Today is the best day.  I drove 2 of my kids to school, which I normally don’t do since they ride the bus.

I have family coming in today for my son’s concert.

I can’t wait to have my favorite pork tacos with them.

I’m dying to see my son perform today.

I’m excited to have everyone cram into my house tonight for a sleepover.

The sun is out and it’s beautiful.

I told my daughter today in the car on our drive, “today is the best day ever.”

She was quick to tell me that I said that on Saturday.

The great thing is that I can decide that today is the best new day if I want to.

I can decide that it’s even better than the last great day.  When I’m appreciating all the little things and making them mean that it’s the best day – it’s so much fun.

Why is today the best day for you?  What if you believed it was?
What would you see?  How would you feel?

Enjoy your day – one thought at a time!

Xoxo

– Molly Claire

triggered

This morning I was triggered.

My teenager knows my guilt spot and he went for it.

He took a dig.
I was mad. Immediately mad.

The reason I was mad, is because of what I was thinking.

I was thinking…

He’s criticizing me.
He wants me to feel guilty.
He is judging me.
I’m failing as a mom.

No matter what I do, it’s not enough.
I’m doing my best, and it’s still not enough.
No one appreciates me.
It’s not fair.

No wonder I was feeling so terrible, right? That collection of thoughts flooded my mind and the result… triggered.

The reality is that he was discharging his own negative feelings.
Maybe he was criticizing or judging me.
Maybe he doesn’t appreciate me.
Maybe he does want me to feel guilty.

I don’t really know.

What I do know is that my emotions and the way I react is my responsibility.

And it’s my job to appreciate what I do and be my own supporter. I’m not going to count on my kids to tell me I’m amazing or “make me” feel good. That’s not their job and it’s not okay to ask that of them.

I won’t delegate my happiness to my kids – it’s just not a good idea. It’s not my kids job to make me feel good. It’s mine.

Who’s in charge of your happiness today? Your toddler? Your teenager?

I hope it’s you.
Give yourself a little sunshine and happiness. You deserve it.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time.

– Molly Claire

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do you read these?

It’s *Think it Thursday* and do you read these blogs?

I hope you do.

Last week a woman emailed me asking about coaching. She told me that she gets more out of these short weekly blogs than she does her therapy appointments.

I was so happy to hear it! Not because of me.

(After all, I’m just the vessel for these messages.)

I was happy because she is taking the time to read them and think about how it pertains to her. She’s allowing them to make a difference in her life. The email is the same for all of the thousands of people who receive it – but she is allowing it in.

Do you allow them in? Do you open yourself up to growth and change?

I hope so. You’re amazing. You deserve good things in your life.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

– Molly Claire