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How do I get what I WANT in life?

Do you know what you want?  Most of us don’t.

Which is why we don’t have it.

Most of us approach life sifting through want we don’t really like, and end up feeling dissatisfied with our relationships, finances, or employment.

It’s like a casual shopping spree where nothing really stands out, this doesn’t look good, that’s not your color… but you’re not really sure what you want to begin with. 

Kids are pretty good at wanting (sometimes too good).

As a kid, I loved it when my mom would take me to Baskin Robbins.  I always knew exactly what I wanted – pink bubble gum favor.  It was easy to spot and I got exactly what I wanted.

Somewhere along the way in my life, I quit even thinking about what I wanted.  I’d met most of my “big” goals and I just kind of stopped.

I was surviving being a mom, sifting through the details of life, and didn’t really have time to think about “wanting” something.

Unmet hopes and dreams can also lead us to quit wanting.

This is when we settle for what life’s handing us, unaware that we can continue to want and create greatness. 

This is when we walk into Baskin Robbins and think,

“Hmmm, that looks boring.”

“No, definitely not sugar-free.”

“Can’t do nuts since I’m allergic…”

We spend all of our time ruling things out, without knowing what we are actually looking for.

How is it possible for us to be satisfied in our life if we have no idea what we want? 

So today, ask yourself, what do I want?

Allowing yourself to want can be a really good thing.  It helps you discover what’s important to you.  It helps you set goals and reach toward them.  It helps you move toward something more.

Oh, and by the way, the best place to start is thinking about all of the things you want, that you already have. 

Want what you want.  Appreciate what you have.

Have a great day… one thought at a time!

Sweet Peace of Chocolate

Okay moms, confession time.

Where do you hide your secret chocolate stash?  The closet?  The laundry room?

Where do you go for your moment of peace?

For me, chocolate chips in the pantry always seem to be an easy fix. So handy and so small that no matter how many you eat, it doesn’t really count as calories, right?

This tiny little habit is a clue to something much bigger.

Most likely you are not hiding and locking yourself in a confined space with chocolate because you lack self-control.

You are responding to an emotional need or hunger you have.

Let’s get curious for a minute…

What if that moment of desperation is a clue that some of your emotional needs are not being met?  Many people joke about “eating your feelings,” but it’s actually true!

Emotions are vibrations in the body and the overwhelmed, tired and desperate type of feelings do not feel good.  Your emotional need for peace, or whatever feeling you desire, is easily distracted by that chocolate.

However if hunger is not the problem, then food is not the solution.

You take care of everyone around you, please don’t leave yourself behind! I know you will say there is no time for it. You might even say it’s impossible.  But I promise – it’s not.

If you had a broken leg, would you say it was impossible to make the time to take care of it?

It’s easy to dismiss emotional distress or breaks, but make no mistake about it, they are every bit as important as physical ones. Many would argue that they are even MORE important. Not to mention there are connections between poor emotional health and physical health problems.

So, think about it. Do you need to adjust your schedule to make sure your needs are being met?

If your emotional needs were met, would it make a difference?

Would it have a positive impact on you? Your family? Your job? Your life? If the answer is yes, then wouldn’t it be worth it to make it happen?
If you think it might be worth it, here is a quick challenge:

Set an appointment for yourself everyday for 15 minutes.  Not just any appointment, but the kind that charges a fee if you miss it.

Use that time to read, rest, listen to music, walk, laugh… anything that will truly rejuvenate you.

Do that for a week straight and notice how you feel.  How do you feel when the 15 minutes is up?  How does that small change impact your day?  How does it impact your week.

One small appointment can go a long way.  Make it happen.

Need help getting started?  Click here for a mini-session to start your personal self-care plan.

with love,

Molly Claire

Mompreneur, Life Redesign Coach

 

Quick Tip for Success

I can’t believe I am going to say this but, quantum physics is the most exciting thing in my life right now!
Today I shared with my subscribers a quick tip that relates to science.
We’ve all heard things like, “think positive,” but how many people actually believe it makes a difference?
All those inspiring quotes about thoughts – they actually have a lot of merit.
Quantum physics studies show the incredible power of thoughts. Thoughts are ENERGY.
What if you knew that thoughts directed at water during the freezing process actually influenced its shape? A video I watched recently showed this phenomenon where negative thoughts caused water to look shattered when frozen, while positive thoughts formed ice in the shape of a snowflake.
THAT is mind blowing!
If thoughts are that powerful, don’t you think it’s time you paid a little more attention to yours?
My clients come to me with hopes of becoming a better parent, to have more success in their life, or to improve relationships; guess what, it all starts with your thoughts.
I often tell my clients – don’t believe everything you think! You can choose your thoughts.

Have you fallen into a rut of negative thought patterns? If so, imagine the shattered ice.
What if making a conscious effort to change your thoughts and be more positive could result in awesome success?
So here is the QUICK TIP that I’m offering you:
Each day start off with 10-15 minutes of positive literature. Choose something that inspires you and brings feelings of gratitude, love, hope, or excitement.
Not a big reader? No problem – there are so many inspiring videos online – find them and commit to making it a habit.
Decide what speaks to YOU and brings you positive and inspiring thoughts. Take the challenge and watch it make you a better parent, employee, friend, and a powerful agent for change.

 

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

-Molly

 

P.S. Here is the video if you are curious: https://www.knowledgeoftoday.org/2012/03/thought-definition-life-energy-power.html

Motherhood – Lessons Learned From Bunny Poop

This week in my neighborhood there has been an extraordinary amount of bunny poop on the sidewalks. For several days during my walks I would stare at the ground, careful to avoid stepping in it.
On a mother-son walk last night I told my teenager, “watch out for the poop!” He said he always does, but as we walked and I was flawlessly avoiding it, I could see that it was not his biggest concern. Just like a typical teenage boy, he stepped on a little here or there and wasn’t too concerned. I tried not to cringe, and made sure he left his shoes outside.
On today’s morning walk, I realized that for days I had been staring at poop. I certainly didn’t want to step in it, so I was diligent in watching my step. A funny thing happens when all you do is stare at the poop; in an effort to avoid it, you end up focusing everything you have on it… perhaps missing everything else the walk has to offer.
I want you to visualize for a minute some pebbles of bunny poop on the sidewalk. Compare the size of it to the size of the sky, the trees, the people walking around you, and everything else in your sight. It’s tiny! However, if you are constantly staring at it – it’s all you will see!
In motherhood, we want so badly to do a great job with our kids. We want to avoid the stinky mistakes of motherhood at all costs. Maybe we even teach our kids to avoid the smelly pebbles of mistakes. The problem is, if you focus on all of the poop in life, it really STINKS! Fear of mistakes plagues mothers and robs them of peace and joy in motherhood.
Being a mom is a much more enjoyable experience when you can accept that your shoes WILL get a little dirty with mistakes. Guess what… you can wash them.

If there is a really big mud puddle on the sidewalk, of course you will focus on avoiding it. But then, lift your head and be a mom who makes mistakes every day.

If you are TRYING, you are making mistakes. If you are succeeding, then you have also failed. Success cannot exist without failure. Failure is how we learn, grow and improve…. and ultimately how we succeed. The less we fear failure, the more we can allow it to happen. The more failure happens, the more SUCCESS you will experience.

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Parenting: 2 Things Sabotaging Your Best Efforts

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This parenting help is for you. Yes, especially to those of you who are human.  You know, the kind of parents who make mistakes?

Let’s simplify your parenting woes today by looking at just 2 things that are undermining all of your best parenting efforts. Read more