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I don’t believe in second chances

It’s *Think it Thursday* and I don’t believe in second chances…

At least I don’t believe it ends there.

You may have set a goal for 2018. And you may already feel that you’re failing.

Or the fear that you will fail might be lingering in the back of your mind.

That doubt and fear, is the worst. And when we fear we won’t make it, we usually don’t.

It’s not so much the fear of failing this time that’s the issue. It’s the fear that we’ll never succeed at all.

Imagine for a minute…

Think about a lofty goal that you have.

What if you knew, without a doubt, that you’d achieve it.

What if a crystal ball revealed it, and you knew it would happen.

How much different would your experience of failure be then?

If you overate today, you wouldn’t stay stuck in defeat. You would know it was just a set back and you’d keep going.

If you yelled at your kids (again), you could assure yourself that you would get better and to keep trying.

If you went over budget because you forgot to account for that one thing- it wouldn’t be the end of the world. You would know you were learning. And for sure, you would get there.

Where are you falling short of your expectations and what would be different if you knew you would get there? How can you instill that hope and willingness to persevere?

The magic of becoming better is that you always get more than just a second chance. You have a lifetime to get there.

Commit.

Don’t quit.

And you’ll get there.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!
-Molly Claire

Are You Better?

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Are you better off now than you were a year ago? Is your health better? Do you yell at your kids any less? Have you reduced your level of stress and increased your level of personal achievement?

The problem with New Year’s resolutions is that we rarely place them in the bigger picture of where we are actually trying to go with our lives.

We pick something that sounds like a great idea, and before we know it… it’s mid-February and the great idea is a distant memory.

Equally important as setting goals, is reflecting on how far we’ve come.

In my BLOG this week I share an easy (and super important) idea about how you can focus on how far you’ve come over the last year. I talk there about how easy it is to ignore our milestones, rather than celebrating or building upon them. This is a huge wasted opportunity – so be sure to check it out here.

When you ask yourself today, “Am I better off than I was a year ago?” I want you to also imagine how you’ll answer that question next year.

Will you be better off?

Will you have met your goals and improved your relationships?

Will you be one step closer to being the person you really want to be?

If you want the answer to these questions to be yes, then what is your plan to get there?

You are always either moving closer to your goals, or farther away from them. There is no standing still.

If you want to take 2017 seriously, I’m here to help you.

I’ve got a complimentary mini session waiting for you in January. Let’s assess how we can move you toward that “better you” that’s coming in the new year.

Is she less stressed and more confident with daily life as a mom?

Is she more connected with her kids or her husband?

Does her side-business take off?

Does she finally learn how to practice self-care, so she can feel energized again?

Let’s talk about what’s in store for you, and how to make it happen.

Spark Some Motivation for 2017 – 4 Easy Steps

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The new year is just around the corner, and I can feel the buzz of new possibilities.

We have a fresh start for our goals.

We know THIS will be the year that we really do it. (Whatever “it” may be…)

It’s great to be forward-focused, and yet I’m going to focus here on the value of looking back.

This pre-New Year’s activity is a must to create motivation and vision for the year to come!

Last year I was challenged to create a vision board of all my accomplishments from the previous year. I was doing the project with a group and I wasn’t sure I had much worth showcasing. I was already believing the story in my head that I “didn’t do much.” To be honest, it seemed like a waste of time.

It turned out to be the best thing I could have done for myself. As I went through each tiny milestone and experience I couldn’t believe how far I’d come. I hadn’t noticed along the way, but there it was right in front of me.

You may not feel like you’ve accomplished much this last year, and that’s exactly why you NEED to do this activity. I promise you’ve done far more than you realize.

We move through life noticing a lot of things we don’t do. We rarely focus on our success and our “wins.” We don’t take the time to appreciate them and understand how we actually created them.

Taking a minute to notice the progress we’ve made (and the success we have created) is a huge motivator. It builds our confidence and strengthens the belief we have in ourselves that we can accomplish anything we set our minds to.

I remember when my son struggled to read in kindergarten. It was a painful process (for both of us…) Now as a teenager, he is an amazing reader. He doesn’t think about how much work he put into it. It seems like it comes easily to him. He takes his current level of ability for granted.

We do the exact same thing when we don’t notice our progress, and we miss an opportunity to have even more continued growth.

Business Coach and founder of the 90-day year Todd Herman talks about the “oww” brain and the “wow” brain. The “oww” brain only notices how far we have to go. If you have a “wow” brain, you are always noticing how far you’ve come, which perpetuates your continued success.

So here it is – 4 easy steps to create your “Celebration Board” and spark motivation for 2017:

1. Schedule an hour to work on it. It’s essential to making improvements in the new year, so make it a priority.

2. Make a list. Start listing all the things you accomplished for each month during the last year. Look back at your calendar or journals. Keep digging as if you were presenting your year to a large group. List as many accomplishments, big or small, that you can think of.

3. Do it YOUR way.

  • Poster board, markers, magazines, pictures. Standard and simple – can’t go wrong!
  • Go digital – Create a digital collage. There are so many pictures available online and you can easily incorporate your own family pictures too. Use the collage as a screen saver or something else that you will see often.
  • Bring out the artist in you – painting a collage is a new way of seeing your progress. You can use pictures to symbolize your accomplishments. There’s no right or wrong, just create something that’s meaningful to you.
  • Video – Create a slide show or video showcasing pictures and accomplishments for the last year. This one will take a bit more time, but if you enjoy doing it, it may be the perfect project to have your teenagers help you with.

4. Share it with those you love! Do this project with your sister, a friend, your husband, or even your kids. Share your success with those you love. They will be happy to celebrate your success with you, and you can offer them the same.

Have an amazing New Year full of new accomplishments and continued growth!