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miserable kids

Yesterday I asked my son to do the dishes and he was certain the world was coming to an end.

My other son is struggling with social anxiety – really struggling.

My daughter has been crying nearly every day because she hates having her dad so far away.

It’s kind of the worst when your kids are upset, isn’t it?

It’s the worst mostly because somewhere in the back of our mind, we think they shouldn’t be feeling discomfort.  We want to make it better.  We think if they are okay, then we can feel okay too.

Our kids will experience hard things – really hard things.

They will fail.

They’ll feel sadness and heartbreak.

They’ll get frustrated.

Sometimes they will question their own worth and feel totally inadequate.

And maybe that’s okay.

I know it doesn’t seem okay, but it’s a normal part of life.

The first step in really being there for them, is accepting negative emotions as part of their experience.  When you can make peace with it, rather than try to fix it – you will allow yourself to be present with them.

You can listen.  You can love them.  You can trust God that their journey is perfect for them.

Trust the process of life.

I’m working on it too.

Have an amazing day, one thought at a time.

-Molly Claire

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*Think it Thursday* and love

All your kids need is love.

It’s easy to think that we need to do SO many things for our kids in order to ensure their success and happiness. It’s easy to let these expectations stress us out and take away from what’s most important.

Which is… love.

Your kids just want you there. They don’t need expensive things. They don’t need a home in perfect order. They don’t need to eat organic for every meal of the day.

What they need, is love. Unconditional, never ending, always meaningful – love.

Are you giving it to them?

Get rid of the unnecessary and focus on what matters most.  I’m working on doing the same.

Think about it.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

Quick Tip for Success

I can’t believe I am going to say this but, quantum physics is the most exciting thing in my life right now!
Today I shared with my subscribers a quick tip that relates to science.
We’ve all heard things like, “think positive,” but how many people actually believe it makes a difference?
All those inspiring quotes about thoughts – they actually have a lot of merit.
Quantum physics studies show the incredible power of thoughts. Thoughts are ENERGY.
What if you knew that thoughts directed at water during the freezing process actually influenced its shape? A video I watched recently showed this phenomenon where negative thoughts caused water to look shattered when frozen, while positive thoughts formed ice in the shape of a snowflake.
THAT is mind blowing!
If thoughts are that powerful, don’t you think it’s time you paid a little more attention to yours?
My clients come to me with hopes of becoming a better parent, to have more success in their life, or to improve relationships; guess what, it all starts with your thoughts.
I often tell my clients – don’t believe everything you think! You can choose your thoughts.

Have you fallen into a rut of negative thought patterns? If so, imagine the shattered ice.
What if making a conscious effort to change your thoughts and be more positive could result in awesome success?
So here is the QUICK TIP that I’m offering you:
Each day start off with 10-15 minutes of positive literature. Choose something that inspires you and brings feelings of gratitude, love, hope, or excitement.
Not a big reader? No problem – there are so many inspiring videos online – find them and commit to making it a habit.
Decide what speaks to YOU and brings you positive and inspiring thoughts. Take the challenge and watch it make you a better parent, employee, friend, and a powerful agent for change.

 

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

-Molly

 

P.S. Here is the video if you are curious: https://www.knowledgeoftoday.org/2012/03/thought-definition-life-energy-power.html

Motherhood – Lessons Learned From Bunny Poop

This week in my neighborhood there has been an extraordinary amount of bunny poop on the sidewalks. For several days during my walks I would stare at the ground, careful to avoid stepping in it.
On a mother-son walk last night I told my teenager, “watch out for the poop!” He said he always does, but as we walked and I was flawlessly avoiding it, I could see that it was not his biggest concern. Just like a typical teenage boy, he stepped on a little here or there and wasn’t too concerned. I tried not to cringe, and made sure he left his shoes outside.
On today’s morning walk, I realized that for days I had been staring at poop. I certainly didn’t want to step in it, so I was diligent in watching my step. A funny thing happens when all you do is stare at the poop; in an effort to avoid it, you end up focusing everything you have on it… perhaps missing everything else the walk has to offer.
I want you to visualize for a minute some pebbles of bunny poop on the sidewalk. Compare the size of it to the size of the sky, the trees, the people walking around you, and everything else in your sight. It’s tiny! However, if you are constantly staring at it – it’s all you will see!
In motherhood, we want so badly to do a great job with our kids. We want to avoid the stinky mistakes of motherhood at all costs. Maybe we even teach our kids to avoid the smelly pebbles of mistakes. The problem is, if you focus on all of the poop in life, it really STINKS! Fear of mistakes plagues mothers and robs them of peace and joy in motherhood.
Being a mom is a much more enjoyable experience when you can accept that your shoes WILL get a little dirty with mistakes. Guess what… you can wash them.

If there is a really big mud puddle on the sidewalk, of course you will focus on avoiding it. But then, lift your head and be a mom who makes mistakes every day.

If you are TRYING, you are making mistakes. If you are succeeding, then you have also failed. Success cannot exist without failure. Failure is how we learn, grow and improve…. and ultimately how we succeed. The less we fear failure, the more we can allow it to happen. The more failure happens, the more SUCCESS you will experience.