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this is so much fun

It’s your *Think it Thursday* and this is so much fun!

Have I mentioned lately the importance of doing fun things in your life?

I used to think that was so frivolous.
I used to think, “Must be nice…. But I don’t have the time.”

The truth is- there is too little time in life NOT to have fun.

This week I started a new practice of writing down all the fun things I’ve built into my week and posting it by my bed. I see it every morning and every night. And every time I walk by.

My life is busy. 3 kids, my business, and all the craziness of life that creeps into the day.

But when I see that list, I get excited about all of those little things.

It might be a phone call you plan to have with a friend. Or picking up your favorite shampoo that’s on sale at Beauty Brands. Maybe it’s date night, or a walk, or choosing a paint color for your bedroom.

List everything you want to feel excited about.

Think about those things all through the week.

It’s magical.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

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the secret to more energy

It’s *Think it Thursday* and I’m sharing with you the secret to more energy.

I’m teaching you something today that is my lifeline.

Some of you know I have chronic fatigue and it’s a constant challenge.

But this concept I’m telling you about, is a game changer.

Because we all get exhausted and worn out, especially as a mom.

My secret – energy management.

We hear a lot about time management, but the truth is that if you had more energy, you would make much better use of your time, right?

You can’t create more hours in the day, but you can create more energy.

There are certain things you do that energize you – maybe it’s alone time, maybe it’s social time.  Maybe it’s laughing or creating.  Take a minute to notice what energizes you.

There are other things that require more mental and emotional energy.  Leading kids in chores, balancing the budget, or sifting through your schedule for the week… stack these up and it could leave you spent, exhausted, with nothing left to give.

The key is to plan and manage your activities based on how they impact your energy.  The right combination is all the difference.

Think about this.  Time is finite.  There are 24 hour every day, period.

Energy is fluid.  You can manage your energy by building in plenty of activities that increase your energy, amongst those that drain it.

So today, here is your assignment:

List energizing and energy-depleting activities.  Plan them in to support you having sustained energy.  Revisit this idea often and just notice how you have the ability to manage your energy.

Magic.

Have a great day – one thought at a time!

Xoxo

-Molly Claire

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crying my eyes out

*Think it Thursday* and crying my eyes out –

Last week I was working with a client to release perfectionism.

We talked about letting go of the, “do it all,” “do it perfect,” mentality that was overwhelming her.

We talked about the mean girl in her head who was telling her she shouldn’t need help and she should be doing more and managing it all better.

I asked her, “what will happen if you keep trying to have it “all together”?”

She thought about it and came to realize, she would explode. She would not be holding anything together at all, because she would finally collapse under the weight of it all.

That was her realization. And then there was mine…

Fast forward just a bit.

5 days ago I was having a complete emotional breakdown.

I had been really sick and was at that point – I needed help.

Help with kids, help with a grocery store run, help with food. I hated asking for help. I didn’t want to put anyone out. I didn’t want to disappoint anyone by cancelling my appointments.

To be honest, I was crying my eyes out.

I could see myself, and I could see my client – one in the same– both struggling to be okay with simply being human.

You see, you and me (and her) – we are not that different.

We’re all just human, sometimes expecting something superhuman from ourselves.

We believe a lie that we are supposed to be better than our best. We expect of ourselves more than we would ever expect of anyone else. We talk down to ourselves, rather than having our own back.

What if today you are human, and that’s okay?

What if you have flaws?

What if sometimes you need help?

What if you’re perfectly imperfect, exactly as you’re supposed to be?

And what if I am too?

xo

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

Reducing Stress… Advice from my five-year-old

reducing stress

We hear a lot about reducing stress, but did you know that worry and stress are optional?

I always like to opt out.

Except when I allow them to creep in.  Which, I do.  More often than I’d like.
But, the truth is – they are just not useful.  Just take it from my five-year-old.

Yesterday our dog was shaking on the way to the vet.
When my five-year-old asked why, I explained to her that she was scared.

My daughter was baffled, “So… she’s shaking???  That doesn’t do any good at all!”
(yes, she’s 5)
She went on, “You know, it’s like worry.  Worrying doesn’t help anything at all.  It just makes you feel worse.”

That pretty much sums it up, right?

So why do we worry?  Why do we allow stress to come up over and over again?

Well, because that’s our default. It’s our pattern.
It seems useful or necessary.
And it doesn’t really feel optional.

Shaking didn’t help our dog.  Worry and stress won’t help us.

What’s happening will happen, whether we worry about it or not.

So when it comes to reducing stress and worry, what do we do?  How do we opt out?
Here is your Quick Tip:

Stay in the present moment. 

When we worry we are skipping ahead to the future.  We allow our brain to go in a million directions and think about everything that is wrong (or could go wrong).
It happens so fast that it’s like a super highway of thoughts…creating worry.

You can slow it down by pulling yourself back into the present moment.  Slow down your thoughts.  Think about what’s right in front of you.

This simple practice will change your world.  I was fortunate to hear from Thomas Sterner last weekend, author of The Practicing Mind, and this is his specialty.  Staying in the present moment preserves our energy and helps us to be the most effective.  I am obsessed with this concept, so don’t be surprised if it comes up a time or two 🙂

So, that’s it.  Take a deep breath.  Notice what and who is right in front of you.  Ask yourself to focus on the present moment. Tell yourself you’ve got this.  And see what changes…

Oh, BTW – I’m bursting with inspiration and insight from my conference last week!  If you’d like to schedule a mini-session to get a little “nugget” of wisdom or help with reducing stress, just Click Here and we’ll chat.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!
Thanks for joining me for Think It Thursday!  Inspiration, Quick Tips and <3 from me to you!