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who’s fault?

The best thing I can ever tell you is that you’re going to feel a lot of negative emotions in your life.

Knowing this will save you from so much suffering.

It will reduce anxiety and fear.

It will save you from feeling the need to blame.

You see when we feel something negative, we think it shouldn’t be happening.

And so, we blame.

This is what it looks like for my clients:

My kids are fighting, and I feel upset…It’s their dad’s fault for parenting them wrong and I’m so angry.

My adopted teenagers don’t respect me and I feel so hurt…It’s so unfair that I didn’t get to have biological kids because then it would be different. I feel resentful.

My son is always getting in trouble at school and I’m so worried. I blame myself and I sit in self-loathing.

So much blame and anger and none of it is necessary.

Negative emotions will happen and maybe it’s okay to just notice that they are happening. Maybe no one is to blame. Maybe you can just focus on moving forward and finding solutions instead.

Have an amazing day – one thought at a time!

– Molly Claire

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you’re going to be okay

*Think it Thursday* and you’re going to be okay –

Today’s one of those days that I’m getting personal.

I’m speaking to those of you who feel you’re in a dark place, stuck, and wondering how you will make it through whatever challenge you are facing.

You may be feeling fear and worry that things won’t get better in your life.

I know just how you feel.

If you’ve been following me for a while, you know that I’ve been redesigning my life and creating a new normal over the last few years as I’m navigating life as a single mom. I’ve been managing the ups and downs of chronic fatigue and trying to keep the faith that it will get better.

I’ve been forging ahead and yet – I’m sort of breathing a sigh of relief lately.  I feel that sense of, wow I made it through – and I’m still standing.  I’m still moving forward.

I remember feeling so much fear and experiencing deep sadness.
I remember so much uncertainty and wishing it would all just go away.

I’ve been putting one foot in front of the other and it wasn’t until recently that I had an appreciation for how much I’ve come through and what I’ve overcome.  Not because of me, but because of the possibilities that life allows us.

Within you is the ability to overcome every challenge in front of you.  Even when it’s not easy.

And believe me – it never feels easy. 

If you’re reading this and feeling that you can’t keep going– I understand.
If you’re wondering if you’ll make it through – I understand.
If you’re thinking the end of this challenge should be sooner rather than later – I totally understand.

And yet I promise you – you can handle this challenge in front of you.  

You are capable, and you are strong.  

You were designed to overcome this challenge.

Your faith, your strength, and your courage will come together as a force of nature.  You’ll do it.  I promise.

Sending you extra love today.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

Xoxo

– Molly Claire

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1:1

It’s *Think it Thursday* and 1:1 –

I went away last weekend with my oldest son – just the two of us. I was determined to make it happen, and so grateful that we could pull it off.

It was the best time spent not because of the sights and the food (even though they were amazing), but really because we were connecting.

There were no email notifications, no, “wait just a minute,” and plenty of time to talk about how things are going.

Priceless.

Maybe it won’t be a full weekend, but find time for 1:1 connection time with the people that matter most in your life.

It can be 5 minutes of “how was your day?”
It might be 10 minutes of walking around the block to chat.
Or maybe perhaps turning off your phone while you fold laundry together.

Take the time, make the time, you won’t regret it.

Have a great day, one thought at a time!

-Molly Claire

Freeze Time

This week I wish I could freeze time. Every day I watch my teenager tower over me just a bit more. I’m not sure when he became so grown up. He’s my right-hand man and he always holds the door for me when we are out and about.

Just yesterday I was picking out the perfect train set for him. It came in a box with a red lid and his eyes lit up on Christmas morning. He was loud and full of energy.

Now he’s quiet and he sleeps in.

I’m not sure when this all happened. Did I miss it? Did I blink too long? I’m not sure.

In all truth, I don’t want to freeze time… I just want to experience time.

I want to be mentally present with my kids every day. I want to notice what’s happening around me, instead of thinking about what’s next. I want to have conversations about more than just chores and homework. I want to make the most important things a priority now, instead of believing there will be time later.

There is time right now.

Whatever good is happening for you right now in your life, please experience it a little more. Make more of it. Do more of it. Love it more. Love them more.

Scrambled or Over Easy?

How do you want to experience this holiday season?

This is the week that everyone is scrambling to get things done before the holidays.

If this is you, please consider stopping the scramble.

Scrambling your brain with panic, rush and pressure is just not worth it. It’s ineffective and miserable. It leaves us irritable and causes us to miss out on all the things we COULD be enjoying.

Is that how you want to experience this time of year?

Not me.

When we create a high level of stress for ourselves, we are never at our best. We are inefficient. We are so focused on our “to dos” that we miss the important things happening in our lives.

Before you try to fit more in to your day, rush to finish, or create unnecessary stress over a million little things…

Stop. Breathe. Assess.

Take a moment… so you don’t end up missing the little moments.

Here are a few key questions to guide you this week (and help you pare down your to do list):

1. What’s most important?
2. How can I better align with my priorities?
3. What can I let go of?

And most important:

4. How do I want to experience this week… and how can I create that?

I want to experience this week being fully present. I want to focus on relationships first. I want to look for the best in everyone. I want to minimize my stress and maximize efficiency.

What about you? How can you create what you want?

-Molly Claire
Life Redesign Coach, Mompreneur